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I just turned 40 last month. I have had a series of idiots in my life, as well as good ones. They just are not interested in me, I am not one of those people who should be with someone. I am surrounded by those who do not deserve me, or they want someone who will be their mommy taking care of them rather than me. I've been treated badly, I've been blown off, they are apathetic, they are unwilling to be with me, or they throw me over for some trashy girl or a bitch. I want a man who deserves me, none of them seem to. It's not something just in my city, I am past thinking that I will find happiness if I move to another city or state because I had similar experiences when I was in college and dated guys from other cities/states. Same reactions.

 

 

 

 

It's ok being alone, I have no choice otherwise. I can come and go as I please and don't have to run it by someone else. Life is good at the moment.

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My aunt is in her 60's and has decided to be single for the remainder of her life and she is very happy I think she's been single since her early 30's.

 

 

But you always have a choice if you want a good man but "give up" you're not going to find him.

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There's a lot of toxic language and ideation in your post.

 

Can you see that?

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Speaking as a man, I'm with you 100%. Lately, trying to form a relationship with someone just doesn't seem worth the effort.

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It's ok to be alone, if that's your honest choice, but from the sound of your post, it's more like you are resigning yourself to it.

 

 

Don't

 

 

By the time I was your age, I'd had many girlfriends, both good, and bad. I'd been married, divorced, and dumped. But you keep going.

 

 

Love can come at any age, and for me, I found it again at 54. It was a long hiatus, but that's ok. In between, I dated quite a number of not so good smelling roses. That's just life.

 

 

You may not have just found the one that's great for you yet.

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Don't give up is easier said than done when you've experienced nothing but failure. That's mostly coming from people who are already in relationships. It's easy for them to say.

Edited by oberkeat
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