Author LoveRefreshed Posted February 23, 2015 Author Posted February 23, 2015 thanks for the responses guys. I would say that I am mostly over her. My ego has healed from the rejection. I don't think about her all the time. I like someone else and am enjoying my time with this other girl. I do still find her amazingly attractive, both physically and otherwise. I think she is an incredibly strong person with a lot of empathy, so I still admire those traits in her. I have noticed she may be a little ego centric, and that is what I think may be the problem. Her ego was touched from me not hopelessly wanting her, but I don't get why people want this. Also, she is really beautiful, I am sure she has about a dozen men who hopelessly want her.
kendahke Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 Her ego was touched from me not hopelessly wanting her, but I don't get why people want this. Because it reminds her that she's got someone to fall back on.
katiegrl Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 If she is a great friend in return I see no harm and wouldn't consider you a whipping boy, just do whats best for you. OP I noticed you "thanked" Omei for this post... which begs the question. Why did you come here? Did you come here seeking affirmation .... OR did you come here seeking the truth of what's really going on with this chick? 99.999% of the responses here are RIGHT ON. She's an attention whore and is playing you for a fool. Big time! Whether or not it's conscious or subconscious on her part is irrelevant. You "are" her whipping boy...make no bones about it. No you absolutely cannot be "just friends" with a chick you sexually desire and wish to date/have relationship with. I would suggest you grow a pair, tell her you have no desire to be "friends"... then block her and delete her. Focus on the women who are actualky into you...
katiegrl Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 Well, I oddly enough ran into her leaving work today. We talked for a bit and she invited me to hang out next week. I told her I was unsure that it was good for me. That I probably needed some time before we could be friend, because I just can not easily get over her. That I thought it was ****ty to do it but it was something I had to do. She seemed really hurt by it, looked quite sad, but said she understood. That she was sorry about her causing me such distress. Then said it wasn't like she said it would never happen but didn't feel that way yet. I said it's stuff like that exactly is why I needed more time to get over her. These statements give me false hope and that every time we have such deep and emotional conversations, it makes me feel a stronger connection with her. She said she also felt a strong connection with me as well :-/ Either way, I told her when I have moved on with my feelings, I would invite her to do something as a friend. Well, I guess that is that. I just read this ^^ and the rest of the thread. You did the right thing... And I apologize for my previous post, but when I wrote it I had only read the first few posts in the thread...my bad.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 OP I noticed you "thanked" Omei for this post... which begs the question. Why did you come here? Did you come here seeking affirmation .... OR did you come here seeking the truth of what's really going on with this chick? 99.999% of the responses here are RIGHT ON. She's an attention whore and is playing you for a fool. Big time! Whether or not it's conscious or subconscious on her part is irrelevant. You "are" her whipping boy...make no bones about it. No you absolutely cannot be "just friends" with a chick you sexually desire and wish to date/have relationship with. I would suggest you grow a pair, tell her you have no desire to be "friends"... then block her and delete her. Focus on the women who are actualky into you... I agree... That friend of his is almost 100% identical to a girl I had as a friend when I was in my younger 20s. Saw her romantically and put it all on the line - but she turned me down. I did rub other girls in her face though similar to OP (which shouldn't have pissed her off - but was immature of me), and eventually she did come around and we had some "fun", but it was short lived lol.
Author LoveRefreshed Posted February 25, 2015 Author Posted February 25, 2015 I am not sure what to do now. The girl invited me for dinner. I haven't told my the girl I am seeing a bit more seriously now (who we have not discussed exclusivity, however, I have stopped seeing the other girls by my choice) about the exact nature of this girl and mine's friendship. We never did anything, but I did have a crush on her. I am over this girl and I think I can be friends with her now, it has been some time and meeting this other girl has done wonders to make it faster. I am not sure what is appropriate to do. Do I go to meet her, friends can have dinner. Would this be incredibly disrespectful to the girl I am seeing? Even though I have stopped multidating, but we never talked about being exclusive? I stopped dating other girls because I don't have so much time and she is clearly the one I like most, I am just waiting for the exclusive talk until I see more clearly how she is feeling about me. Should I be transparent that I had a crush on this girl and now I am going to have dinner, as friends? Do I tell my other friend to **** off on the dinner. Maybe she wants to clarify why she left in a hurry the other night. What would you do?
fitnessfan365 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Well first you need to be honest about what happened in the beginning. You attempted to date her. She rejected you. You settled for friendship so you could stay in her life an try to grow on her to get her to change her mind. But unlike rom com's this is real life and it never works out that way. So at least I hope that you learn your lesson from this. Make your intentions known from the get go, If you're interest isn't reciprocated, NEVER under any circumstances agree to friendship. But now I agree with the general consensus. You just need to walk away from her man.
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