Gloria25 Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 Ok, I've made some connections on OLD and now that they're progressing a bit...why am I sick to my stomach? Could it be my period (which is coming slowly)? Dating jitters (especially since I'm coming out of a 2 year hiatus)? Or my recent horrifying let down with that guy I was crushing on (which has me wondering if I can trust my instinct when it comes to evaluating people and whether or not they are actually interested, or that I'm delusional)? Help!!!
Pinkdisney Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 OLD is a lot of talk and no action...don't get invested in anyone if they don't want to meet within a reasonable timeframe. You will get a lot of flakes and fizzle-outs and wanna-be pen pals. Enjoy the ride, I met my BF of almost 3yrs on OLD and we are going strong. Good luck! 2
gaius Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 As I said before, the whole thing you found attractive about the other guy was that he wasn't available. Some part of you isn't open for business intimacy wise for whatever reason, and now that there are actual prospects on the horizon your body is acting accordingly. Like you just ate some bad sushi. 1
Author Gloria25 Posted January 28, 2015 Author Posted January 28, 2015 As I said before, the whole thing you found attractive about the other guy was that he wasn't available. Some part of you isn't open for business intimacy wise for whatever reason, and now that there are actual prospects on the horizon your body is acting accordingly. Like you just ate some bad sushi. I didn't like the crush guy cuz he wasn't available... When we first talked and he said he wasn't available, I let it go to the extent that I couldn't even recall if he told me what his name was cuz I forgot his name. I went back/forth with him cuz I mistook signs of his "attraction" as signs of "interest" - and that is what worries me about now that some guys are showing me some interest on OLD. I don't wanna get my signals mixed up again - not like this recent crush experience. I wasted several months based on delusions I made up in my head. I thought a guy was interested in me when all he wanted was for me to get lost. I'm proceeding slowly and with caution this time around. 1
gaius Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 I didn't like the crush guy cuz he wasn't available... When we first talked and he said he wasn't available, I let it go to the extent that I couldn't even recall if he told me what his name was cuz I forgot his name. I went back/forth with him cuz I mistook signs of his "attraction" as signs of "interest" - and that is what worries me about now that some guys are showing me some interest on OLD. I don't wanna get my signals mixed up again - not like this recent crush experience. I wasted several months based on delusions I made up in my head. I thought a guy was interested in me when all he wanted was for me to get lost. I'm proceeding slowly and with caution this time around. I don't think there's much room for interpretation from guys on OLD sites. If they're messaging you in general they're attracted and want something from you. So how could worrying about the same thing happening be the cause of your bad feelings? Just from seeing you post, how you respond to stuff and how you talk that's just the general vibe I get. And I'm usually not wrong about these things.
applej4 Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 OLD is a lot of talk and no action...don't get invested in anyone if they don't want to meet within a reasonable timeframe. You will get a lot of flakes and fizzle-outs and wanna-be pen pals. Enjoy the ride, I met my BF of almost 3yrs on OLD and we are going strong. Good luck! I realize that sometimes OLD can work out. (I know two couples who met online and are now happily married.)But the fact remains that there are a lot of people who use dating sites to just flirt and chat and have cybersex, with no intention of meeting in person and actually “dating”. They lie about their identity, send fake photos, many are married or in relationships. To them the internet is a playground, and the anonymity has worked in their favor. It’s important to try to weed these freaks as soon as possible. They’re just wasting your time
Rejected Rosebud Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 I think you should just go out and meet the guys who you feel drawn to and then work on shutting up your head and letting things progress in a natural way or else not go anywhere, if you can't control yourself from building up giant fantasies in your head if you are attracted to a guy that might be something to work on maybe even with a counselor. 1
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