BerthaL Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 My ex and I are almost 17. After four months, he dumped me because he said he wasn't ready for a relationship. I was SO SHOCKED because his behavior hadn't changed at all until the week before, when he couldn't hang out QUITE as often (but still did a fair amount) and was slightly less physically affectionate. Even up until MINUTES before the breakup he was still always texting me with interest in my life, opinions, saying good night, etc, and treating me with great chivalry and attention. I was recovering from surgery at that time so that behavior could've been out of politeness, but he'd always been that way after we became romantically involved and seemed interested in MANY things beyond my recovery. I'm just so confused because he really seemed to be into even up to the end... but after the breakup I told him I deeply cared and he didn't either reciprocate it or deny he did too, just kept saying he was sorry but he wasn't ready (keep in mind this conversation was all over text). Maybe he didn't want to commit because we'd be forced to separate after graduation? So either he stopped liking me, wasn't ready, or his parents influenced/forced him to end it. He's VERY DEPENDENT on them, LOVING them and allowing them to control essentially his entire life (i.e. where he goes and who he's friends with). And they didn't want him dating. Also wanted to add that due to mutual religious beliefs, sex was never involved (in fact, he was VERY shy/nervous about affection, especially PDA around his parents. It seemed I was more comfortable going further than he was). But if he truly still liked me, would any of that had mattered? I told him I couldn't be friends, so we've avoided each other and he hasn't had a gf in the months since. You can vote A (he still liked me but had to break up due to parent/commitment issues) or B (he stopped liking me) Please be honest. Thank you!
mightycpa Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 How about C, he likes you, but he doesn't like you that way.
Author BerthaL Posted January 28, 2015 Author Posted January 28, 2015 How about C, he likes you, but he doesn't like you that way. What do you mean? He suddenly lost romantic feelings for me?
universalangel Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 i dont think he stopped liking you..i think honestly he got scared to commit..sometimes guys can feel when a girl is becoming closer to them and they tend to pull back. My bf did this to me once..after 6 months..he suddenly pulled back and it made no sense to me, cuz we were in love ! But he took space for about a month, and i actually started to move on...men sense when a girl has let go..they dont feel desperation or neediness..he came back and chased me for days until i forgave him..now we are stronger than ever!..jst remember..guys pull away somtimes ( refer to the rubber band theory)..its very common and women cannot make sense of this..but if u want help..please msg me! 1
mightycpa Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 What do you mean? He suddenly lost romantic feelings for me? Yes. That actually happens a lot. Inexplicable, but true. You just wake up one day and you feel differently.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 He's only 16, and far from mature or ready for a serious commitment. (Same goes for you, in my opinion. You're both very young) Teens at that age change on a dime, seemingly. He is doing you a favour by stepping away if he doesn't feel the same way anymore.
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