TheManWithoutAPlan Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 Well things have been okay for the most part between me and this girl, we've been friends for a good year and a half, no real problems or so to speak of. I have been said by her as being one of the only guys close to her that she trusts with pretty much everything, and anything, but I've never really done anything such as give advice on guys or relationships etc. Lately anyway, she seems different. Before we used to talk really quite often say all day everyday, now she seems blunt and sometimes downright rude, without no if not any indication why. I even asked recently and she just kind of brushed it off, didn't answer my question or really anything, just "Yeah it's just usual things haha", which compared to how things were say months ago all I'm getting is the impression that there is something up. Ideas?
StalwartMind Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 Something is up, but what exactly that particular thing is only she knows. There is always a reason behind our actions and changes to one's "normal" behavior is typically influenced by some events that steer our mind away from the usual pattern. You notice it but for whatever reason she chooses not to acknowledge it, at least when it comes to your conversations. It may be temporary and regardless of how you feel it's her choice as to how she wishes to involve you or not in what's going on. That can naturally feel harsh when she says you are one of the only people she really trusts, but one thing you can do is just let her know that you are there for her if she needs to. Even if she already knows, it can be reassuring to hear that and you also won't be pushing her in any direction that forces an unwanted outcome.
kendahke Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 Well things have been okay for the most part between me and this girl, we've been friends for a good year and a half, no real problems or so to speak of. I have been said by her as being one of the only guys close to her that she trusts with pretty much everything, and anything, but I've never really done anything such as give advice on guys or relationships etc. Lately anyway, she seems different. Before we used to talk really quite often say all day everyday, now she seems blunt and sometimes downright rude, without no if not any indication why. I even asked recently and she just kind of brushed it off, didn't answer my question or really anything, just "Yeah it's just usual things haha", which compared to how things were say months ago all I'm getting is the impression that there is something up. Ideas? "Ha ha" nothing. Don't let her get away with that. Next time she's short with you, you need to call her out in that moment and ask her what is the problem. Also, tell her you are not her punching bag. Stop putting up with her rudeness. You used to didn't know her, too, ya know?
Mrs. John Adams Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 There could be multiple reasons as to her behavior....and none of them could be related to you...she might not be feeling well, she may be anxious about something, or stressed out about something, or she is having difficulty with someone at work. I do think you should lovingly ask her if everything is ok and offer your support and help. But i also think you should let her know she offended you...she may not be aware how short she sounded or how insensitive she was. I wish you good luck....I believe it is always best to be honest with each other..you cannot fix it if you are not even aware it is broken.
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