Fuerza Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 Seeing at all the other topics here with people having real issues with love, my topic seems so stupid but I need some advice and asking doesn't hurt right? So here's the deal. Been in a relationship for 4 years, however it's an LDR. Not that big of a deal however as it's 2 countries next to each other, with work and traveling time still being long it's still pretty impossible to meet up frequently. We have our birthdays coming up next week and I was hoping he would take the day off and come to me, however no such thing! He started talking about his own birthday (feb 8th) claiming he wants to celebrate both of our birthdays that Sunday and that he wants for his birthday to eat out with his parents that day because I barely see them. Fine I said, however it seems a bit selfish to me as the day will be all about him and I won't really have a chance to celebrate my birthday with him? Kind of wanted a day where we could be alone and be together and celebrate. Obviously it's too late for him to take a day off from work because my B-day is next Tuesday and it's making me really mad tbh. I know he can be selfish and forget things that I find important but I never thought he would do this. What do even I do? Just let it go? I just miss him really bad and it's frustrating he won't even be here on my birthday...
Author Fuerza Posted January 27, 2015 Author Posted January 27, 2015 So I decided to just spit it out and tell him how I felt, just started with asking if I could be honest about something, he said yes, and then said that I was kind of disappointed in him and I asked him if he had any clue what it might be. So he started guessing and by the second guess he got it right that it was about my birthday. He then proceeded saying "it's not even your birthday yet" when he didn't even knew what I was exactly disappointed in. Then said why it's always that I want to discuss "heavy" topics at a late hour (11pm) and I said I wanted it off my chest and if he cared about me, it shouldn't matter when I want to discuss things as long as things are being discussed so everything is okay between us. He then said "if YOU cared about ME you should have taken ME in account, what about that?" I knew he would get mad right away if I tried to discuss this, which is why I didn't spit it out right away but decided to be careful about it. But what I do he always gets mad when I want do discuss something, no matter what hour I bring it up. Tiring. This whole situation isn't even about my birthday anymore, just him being him.
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