I've been dating a man for a month now, is it time to take down the profile?

[Erised]

There is no difference in risk between oral sex and intercourse. There is an exchange of bodily fluids (unless of course the parties use a condom. And women who perform oral on a man using a condom often suffer a reaction to the latex and the mouth becomes irritated, so people don't always do that. If the man performs oral on a woman, there isn't anything to protect them. There are some items which can be used on the vagina, but I doubt people use them much because they aren't as readily available in stores). The fluids contain the virus or disease.

 

Oral sex performed on a man has much lower risk than sex of several things, including HIV. That's without protection.

 

There is plenty of protection available. No real excuse not to use them.

[Eighty_nine]

...what are you even TALKING about?! lol I didn't even ask if you, or anybody else, what you thought about if oral sex was sex. Your opinion differs from mine, no biggie.

 

If you're giving him oral sex, of course he's going to stay the night with you.

Based on you giving oral so quickly and his behavior since then, I'd say he's not that interested.

[Redhead14]

Oral sex performed on a man has much lower risk than sex of several things, including HIV. That's without protection.

 

There is plenty of protection available. No real excuse not to use them.

 

That is not true. If a man ejaculates into a woman mouth, she is exposed. Further there are pre-ejaculation fluids that also carry virus and disease. Do not be fooled by popular misconception.

[Erised]

That is not true. If a man ejaculates into a woman mouth, she is exposed. Further there are pre-ejaculation fluids that also carry virus and disease. Do not be fooled by popular misconception.

 

Exposed. Risk is still less than vaginal or anal sex (though not none.). That's what the research says. We can take this to private message if you'd like me to reference the research papers on this matter, and not hijack the thread.

 

 

I still maintain conflating sex and a relationship as the same issue is horrid.

[Redhead14]

The reason this post has been taken down different paths, is because the original premise of the post was about whether to take down or hide the profile. However, the post was padded with mentions of other more significant potential problems with the scenario that caused us all to be concerned for the OP and we all wanted to make sure the OP was looking at the bigger picture.

 

The OP is excited about this new prospect and that is good, but it is very easy to get caught up in that feeling and lose perspective for that bigger picture.

 

We all only wanted to help and give insight and perspective. This site is about support which includes sage advice and clarity.

[Redhead14]

Exposed. Risk is still less than vaginal or anal sex (though not none.). That's what the research says. We can take this to private message if you'd like me to reference the research papers on this matter, and not hijack the thread.

 

 

I still maintain conflating sex and a relationship as the same issue is horrid.

 

Erised, are you implying you want to take me out back and have a little rumble?

 

It's all good. If your research says differently, I stand corrected and thank you for your enlightenment.