FortunateSon Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 I have been seeing someone who I really like the last 2 weeks. We had been out 3 times and really had fun, lots of touching, always sharing a passionate kiss at the end of the night. The other night she came over for dinner, we ended up enjoying a lot of wine and beer while we were cooking, after dinner we ended up getting very affectionate which turned into her going me oral sex and me doing the same for her in return. We came very close to having sex and probably would have if we hadn't had so much to drink . She stayed over and we blissfully fell asleep. The next morning didn't seem awkward too me, but after texting later the next day, she made a point to tell she usually doesn't do something like that so quickly and felt "weird" about it? I told her that I didn't expect for that to happen either. We are still talking and have plans for upcoming weekend but I feel like she's "pulled away" a bit? I asked her if everything was alright and she said it was. Any advice on how to handle this, I really like her and feel a bit concerned it moved to quickly? Any help is appreciate!!
Ieris Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 Guess she doesn't want you to think she is easy as things did move quite quickly than she is used to. Don't bring up any sex talk as you don't want her think that's what you're after and that she is an easy lay. You need to reassure her that you like her as a person and enjoy spending time with her. Compliment her on her other qualities, how thoughtful or what a funny person she is etc. 1
preraph Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 Just ask her out again right away and do go out and have fun somewhere and don't stay at home. That way she knows you still want to date her and not just for sex. 2
lovexocoach Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 Way too early for what happened. You had sex, let's face it. What is done is done. She's probably feeling a little embarrassed about what happened, too. Back off and let things progress normally from now on. Woo her. Romance her. Get to know her. No more "at home" dates for a while. Take her out. Show her a good time. Let her take the lead for when you should have sex. Don't pressure her.
Author FortunateSon Posted January 27, 2015 Author Posted January 27, 2015 This is what I've tried to do. We have plans to "tentatively" to do something Sunday. I made the point of letting her know that I didn't forsee things moving that quickly either and that I really like her, nothing has changed for me. Should I pull back a bit and give her some space? I feel like I have done most of the initiating since it happened?
Author FortunateSon Posted January 27, 2015 Author Posted January 27, 2015 Way too early for what happened. You had sex, let's face it. What is done is done. She's probably feeling a little embarrassed about what happened, too. Back off and let things progress normally from now on. Woo her. Romance her. Get to know her. No more "at home" dates for a while. Take her out. Show her a good time. Let her take the lead for when you should have sex. Don't pressure her. Do you think I still have a chance or is it a lost cause? Should I leave the ball in her court, so to speak?
preraph Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 Women usually only regret having sex too soon if they think the man is going to disappear on them now. You just go on that date and make it nice and kiss her goodnight and then maybe next date you can get romantic again.
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