Spacedout88 Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 This girl who is friend of mine I met a couple years ago through a mutual friend broke up with her bf who she lives with and has a kid to. Wants to move in with me and pay rent. I am confused about the situation because I kind of like her and don't know if moving her in would be the best thing for trying to date her but at the same time I'm thinking it might make us closer.
BetrayedH Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 This girl who is friend of mine I met a couple years ago through a mutual friend broke up with her bf who she lives with and has a kid to. Wants to move in with me and pay rent. I am confused about the situation because I kind of like her and don't know if moving her in would be the best thing for trying to date her but at the same time I'm thinking it might make us closer. You're going to have to find out if her intentions are completely platonic or not. If you aren't both totally onboard with it being a llatonic roommate situation, then don't move her in. Date first. Give it at least a year.
GoldieLox Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 I second what the first poster said... and if she does end up moving in with you, you have to make sure you're absolutely 100% prepared to have a child living with you. Do you have a kid(s)? If so, then you know how to live with them. If not, it's going to be a challenge. They aren't like dogs, that's for sure.
preraph Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 She has no right to be foisting what will end up being a temporary male figure on her child. My feeling she is looking for financial support from you and that is all or she'd been around for romance before now.
thefooloftheyear Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 She has no right to be foisting what will end up being a temporary male figure on her child. My feeling she is looking for financial support from you and that is all or she'd been around for romance before now. Uhmmm....yep...I think you have your answer here... Sounds like you are the rope she is grabbing on to...She might even feign interest to make it happen.. Id treat it like a business transaction at first and see how she reacts...Dont need to be too officious, just prepare some type of clear cut lease agreement.. Also, nothing wrong with having interest, just make sure you are clear about wanting to take that on(single mom with kid)...Its not what many guys want, and its confusing and potentially damaging to the child, if she is shuttled around and has all kinds of different father figures.. Be careful here.. TFY
Quiet Storm Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 If you do this, be prepared for a lot of drama. She doesn't sound like she manages her life very well.
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