Blaqwynter Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 (edited) I met a guy named Matt back in April off of POF.com. We hit it off like a house on fire, and seemed to be inseparable since the day that we met; given we spoke online and by phone for 2 months prior. The relationship was great, we both assumed we were soul mates, and I couldn't have been any happier. After the 2nd month of dating him, I moved in with him because the relationship was so good. I know that was a fatal error on my part, from past experiences, but we assumed we were ''the one'' for each other, and he even claimed that he thought that I was the one to his mother. I met his mom and auntie, and we got along well. Things changed after a week of living together, he started sleeping on the sofa, there was less sex, and the communication seemed to diminish. That was then I knew he was sleeping around on me. I just couldn't prove it. In June he attempted to break up with me with no apparent reason just to only make up an excuse to get rid of me by using excuses like ''we don't fit, we don't get along''. etc... We got along fine, and we fir fine, it was his mentality that drove us apart. As time progressed, I would worry at work, and the worry and agitation grew with each passing day. I knew something was wrong in the relationship; I could feel it. I threatened to go back to MB for a job I used to hold, and he'd offer me a saddened expression to manipulate me into thinking things were ace. ( He was just waiting for the opportunity for his secret gf to be able to leave her fiancee in order to boot me out and have her move in. ) As time progressed, the relationship grew poorer, and he'd never be home after I'd work 12 hr shifts. I'd always be the one cooking and cleaning for him, and I even did his stinking laundry because he was too damned lazy to do it himself; and of course from the goodness of my heart. I even gave him freedom to go with his friends whenever he wanted, I just wanted to keep the man happy. And I still WASN'T good enough for him in his eyes. (I guess I was too good of a woman but he made me feel worthless as a woman.) In Sept. I went to go to Ont. to see my grandfather who was going in for heart surgery. I left for 2 weeks, and I would always be the one hunting him down just to talk to him ever few days to let him know that I was ok. I never announced when I was coming back because I wanted to catch him in his lies. I missed it by 1 day! If I arrived home a day sooner, I would have caught him. When I arrived home, I could tell he was not at all happy to see me. I could see it in his eyes. (You'd THINK a man would be happy to see his woman after 2 weeks of absenteeism. and right then and there it was confirmed of my suspicions that he was with someone else. ) I could smell it on him, and in our bed, I could tell with the way things were moved about in our room, and how things have gone missing of mine. Of course I confronted the low life of a bastard, but of course he denied it like every other cheat does. 3 days of being back home, he gave me the boot and confessed everything to me except leaving out the fine details of the length of cheating. I knew deep down he was cheating on me for a long time and I was STUPID enough to try and keep ''us'' alive and try to work things out. I had met the lady prior a few times at parties and bonfires. She knew I was with Matt. She was engaged to be married, had kids, a house, had it all, and down graded for my guy?! A month after leaving Ukee, I located the girl's ex on FB & we connected through chatting and becoming friends. I even called this guy a few times. He told me Matt had been seeing this girl for 4 months out of mine and Matt's relationship. I knew it! Yet Matt claimed to it being his and her first time cheating.. (So Matt cheated on me the entire relationship) Well, he really pulled the wool over my eyes, and for a first time cheater he seemed to hide it very well, and I knew it wasn't his first time. He apparently cheated on the few prior ex's before me too, according to some reliable sources. He tried to to tell me different, but I didn't believe a word from his rotten mouth, not after what he pulled.. Now the lady's ex and I still talk months after, and he tells me the skank puts on a facade, pretending to be all happy with Matt, when really she's trying to get back with her ex fiancee... LMAO !! (Karma) I told Matt that karma does go around, and he will one day regret losing me. I hope he's starting too now. I really hope that she breaks his heart like he did to me. I cannot find trust in men anymore, I lost faith in all men all because of him. Matt was my last straw, and I offered the last ounce of trust that I had for men altogether. I had nothing but terrible experiences with men. I'm 32, and have come to realized some of us are just meant to fly solo! Matt I hope you read this one day you piece of $hit! He was one of the worst guys I have ever dated! His mother and Aunt, and all his friends knew what was going on behind my back, and NOT one person stood up to tell me! The abuse and neglect this garbage put me through. He treated me like $hit by pushing me away each time I'd want to kiss him, or he'd drink his face off, to kill reality. He admitted he was a drunk because of me, and he wanted to hide his true emotions of how he felt about me. (I thought truth came out while drinking..?) Guess not... Yet weeks before he told me he was cozy with me.. Yup just to keep me stringing along until his secret gf could leave her man.. Oh and apparently she's an even bigger drunkard then he is! What low lives! And for a woman to leave her own kid! Wow.... Epic! Goes to show Matt's the lower scum on Satan's azzhole for accepting a slut like that into his life. Once cheaters always cheaters! I hope she delivers what he did to me! I should have listened to all my friends in Tofino, where they claimed Matt was chased from that town. Now I see why he was chased. He probably pulled the same stunt to his ex gf that he did to me. At times I can't get over the anger from the pain he put me through! I also at times wish I would have punched him out, wreck all of his belongings, etc.. But in the long run it would have served no justice; while short term it would have indeed felt good to do so! I still seem to be the one being punished, while he seems to have gotten away with ruining the last of a good woman! Scum like him don't deserve anything good in life! I am very bitter towards men and dare not get close anymore. Faith has been lost in all men I encounter. Are there NOT any good men left out there? Whew.. Vent over.. Edited January 27, 2015 by Blaqwynter
EmperorR Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 everyone is great in the beginning, because they are putting on an act trying to impress and win you, once the honeymoon stage wears off is when you see someone's true colors. Which is yup right around 2-4 months. Anyways go NC and don't look back. 1
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