Cherrybombb Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 Beforehand when I first met him he texted me he was extremely attracted to me and we ended up hooking up. He would ask me to come see him more and I blew him off. Recently I've been seeing him for over 8 weeks at least once a week. The thing is I'm always the one to initiate the interest to see each other and I'll text him randomly in the week when I want to see him. He always makes time to see me (he works a 100+ hour week) late at night even though he has work early the next day and we spend hours chatting. Some nights he'll only be able to get 4 hours of sleep because of me! I don't understand if he's interested or how he feels about me since I always have to text first? He doesn't ever text me that he had a wonderful night or to make sure I got home safe. When we have sex he's very passionate and kisses me and holds my hand and we cuddle and talk afterwards. He's also talked to a mutual friend about me and was telling them about a competition I was preparing myself for... What do you guys think about the situation?
hoping2heal Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 Beforehand when I first met him he texted me he was extremely attracted to me and we ended up hooking up. He would ask me to come see him more and I blew him off. Recently I've been seeing him for over 8 weeks at least once a week. The thing is I'm always the one to initiate the interest to see each other and I'll text him randomly in the week when I want to see him. He always makes time to see me (he works a 100+ hour week) late at night even though he has work early the next day and we spend hours chatting. Some nights he'll only be able to get 4 hours of sleep because of me! I don't understand if he's interested or how he feels about me since I always have to text first? He doesn't ever text me that he had a wonderful night or to make sure I got home safe. When we have sex he's very passionate and kisses me and holds my hand and we cuddle and talk afterwards. He's also talked to a mutual friend about me and was telling them about a competition I was preparing myself for... What do you guys think about the situation? So, he works a 100+ hour work week but still makes time to see you once a week and spends hours talking with you. You have passionate sex and you cuddle and talk afterwards. But, because you have to text him first you have to question if he likes you? Giiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiirl I think you have your answer based on his actions.
StrongLass Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 I think until you've clarified what you both want from this connection through good ol' fashioned discussion all you've got here is a FWB on call. Not that it couldn't be more, but you both will have to be willing to make it more.
Gaeta Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 You contact him You go see him You have sex Next week.......... You contact him You go see him You have sex The week after.......... You contact him You go see him You have sex The following week You contact him You go see him You have sex What does it look like to you? The chatting and cuddling and passionate sex means nothing. He is enjoying your company and the sex. Not all men seeking physical relationships are inconsiderate jerks. Also, yes men will lose sleep to get sex. The fact he works 100 hours a week and loses sleep once a week to have sex with you isn't impressive one bit in my eyes. When he puts time aside for you to do things outside his bedroom then you can ask if this is going somewhere. 2
adiamond Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 I would wait a little time and see if he contacts you first. Sometimes I don't give men the chance to plan dates and come see me because I can be impatient. If he cares, he will contact you because he's thinking about you/misses you/ wants to see you. 1
Toodaloo Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 I think you have yourself a F*** buddy. I think you need to spend some time with him in day light hours with your clothes on... I also think you need to talk to him, preferably not just after sex... 2
CrazyCatLady79 Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 I agree with some of the others on here, sounds like a f-buddy situation. Men will give up most things, if it means getting laid. It's nice that he holds your hand and cuddles you, but unless anything is happening outside in the real world then it's nothing more than sex friends. He knows you'll contact him and arrange to come over. He's got a pretty sweet deal really. I find it cruel as he must know you like him, and he's stringing you along. If a guy likes you, he will make the effort to contact you. I say, stop messaging him and if he messages you, suggest a drink in a public place. No sex. Good luck 2
kendahke Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 OP--how long can you go without texting him? How long can you go without having sex? A lot of your answers are predicated upon you having the discipline to do both of these things to see just how much interest he has and how strong his volition is. If you keep jumping in, he really doesn't have to do much. He's got a booty call doing all of the heavy lifting.
Zahara Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 (edited) - You initiate contact - You make the trip to go see him - He gets sex Repeat. How easy and effortless for him! He also gets to enjoy the warm and fuzzies from the after glow, which only means he is enjoying the moment -- because what does all that mean when he doesn't even check to see if you got home safe after you've made the trip out to go to him or continue any meaningful communication. Once you're gone, moment is over and he carries on his normal routine. That's all it is. I don't know of any guy that is going to turn down sex that is presented to him so easily without him lifting a finger, more so when he works 100+ hours -- all the better. Edited January 27, 2015 by Zahara
lovexocoach Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 Let him initiate things and see what happens. You're being used for sex. Are you okay with that?
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