Els Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 I see this girl probably once or twice a month since she lives an hour away. But I would like to see her weekly. Not seeing her weekly really annoys me and i'm debating on letting her know that I would like to see her weekly or at least every other week and if that doesn't happen then i'm dissatisfied. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Not wrong for feeling this way at all. Seeing each other every week is completely reasonable if you live only an hour apart. But, what exactly is stopping you from seeing her more often? Does she turn her down when you say you're going to drive to her place this weekend? Or is she the one doing all the traveling?
Author dsprimal Posted January 30, 2015 Author Posted January 30, 2015 No, although I have a caveat to that answer. You said this too: It sounds like she holds the power of least interest over you, and is wielding it mightily. Your interest level is comparatively off the charts compared to hers. That rarely ends well. If it were me, I'd put an end to it before I got hurt. Put an end to it just right now. I said "why do you say sorry lol it's not like you're ever going to change." then she said "lol I guess that's true" and then I said "I've given enough effort to escalate things with you but you obviously don't have anything else to offer besides your body. which is something any girl can offer." To reply to your OP directly, I like to see my SO as often as possible. Our circumstances are different (we live a block from each other) so for us to go longer than a day without seeing each other is definitely not the norm. We've been dating over a year and are looking for a house to rent so we can cohabitate. Reading your previous thread you have been seeing this girl "on and off" for a year and still on see her only once or twice a month? That to me is not enough contact to create any type of lasting basis for a relationship if one isn't already established. Granted, I am sure there are people who will disagree with me on this subject, saying they have created long term relationships with people that they have only ever seen once or twice a month but unless that foundation is there I personally don't feel I could create a lasting relationship. To me once or twice a month would only work if you have an established foundation in place. You can't create that foundation without more contact. There is so much you learn about the person within the first year of dating (especially in person). And I am one of those people that need that interaction with my SO to create a relationship. 100% agree with your words!! Not wrong for feeling this way at all. Seeing each other every week is completely reasonable if you live only an hour apart. But, what exactly is stopping you from seeing her more often? Does she turn her down when you say you're going to drive to her place this weekend? Or is she the one doing all the traveling? I always travel. This girls a b**** read what I had said to her above ^^^^
chimpanA-2-chimpanZ Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 We usually have two "sleepovers" during the week where we cook dinner, talk about work and cuddle on the couch, and then Friday/Saturday or Saturday/Sunday for weekend plans. So...about four nights. It's been 6 1/2 months now. Sometimes I think moving in would be easier, but I've always been firm on the no-moving-unless-we're-engaged thing. I know plenty of couples who cohabit for years and are happy. I'd just rather put up with the hassle of going back and forth than deal with the awkwardness of moving in together and then breaking up.
Author dsprimal Posted January 30, 2015 Author Posted January 30, 2015 she just said "well if I lead you on by not sleeping with you our not coming to visit you then my bad" LOL THIS GIRL IS DELUSIONAL
guest569 Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 I expected more people to say they see their significant other more frequently, like 5 times a week etc. My ex and I saw eachother once a week and pretty much only contacted each other once or twice. I felt like this wasn't enough, particularly as time went on and I felt like we should be getting closer.
todreaminblue Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 I expected more people to say they see their significant other more frequently, like 5 times a week etc. My ex and I saw eachother once a week and pretty much only contacted each other once or twice. I felt like this wasn't enough, particularly as time went on and I felt like we should be getting closer. I dont think its should be full on from the start ....but a slow progression of more and more time together......in the past its always been full on from the start for me......every day together .......from as soon as i am their gf.....i dont mind lots of time together......but i dont think it should be from day dot......but definitely an increase of time over getting to know each other...not a decrease or stagnation of dates......all different times different days but an increase...with no sleep overs..........deb
Nikki Sahagin Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 I live with my partner so we see each other daily and pretty much spend all of our time together. We were long distance twice for months at a time so now we like to always be together exept for work/own arrangements. Honestly in a relationship I like to see my partner as much as possible as relationships are hugely important in my life. I love daily sex, cuddles and a partner and a fulfilling relationship satisfies me and makes me content. Keeping the passion is important but I love the security and consistency of coming home to my partner and knowing that he is coming home to me. When dating, once or twice a week is fine but in an established relationship I like a lot of contact.
SOB86 Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 Right now I only see my gf on the weekends but I wish it were every day. We both work a lot so it's not like we would be together every single moment. To see her every night for a few hours would be nice. We are working towards living together.
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