Cipher28 Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 Yo, basically thought I'd sign up to this site for some reassurance! Well, I had a date last Thursday. Been talking to this girl for a week or so. Met her from Tinder. When we met up it was great, seemed like we got on well together. Had a few drinks, kissed etc then I went home. We talked a lot the next day, talked a lot to each other still. Then decided to give her some breathing space, asked her on the Saturday night if she had a had a good day. Nothing. So yeah, thought oh well will let her breathe again and asked her tonight (Monday) how she was and nothing. So I thought, this is a goner. I may as well say something to put a finality to it all. I basically said, "Hey, thought I'd message you and say I'd rather be told to eff off than be ignored. People respect you a lot more if you do that rather than pretend they don't exist." Which is fair, right? Wished her well and that was that. She replied almost immediately afterward, saying I was too paranoid about her not replying back to me. She was busy at work etc. Which is fair enough in that respect, maybe. Could also be annoyed that I called her out too. I'm not sure. But I've always said to myself that if a woman likes you and you want to talk to her, she will always find time for you. It's not like I bombarded her with messages either. I just sent her the one. But regardless, any potential with this woman is done now. What I want to know is, was I too hasty? Should I have left it a few more days? Maybe I am being paranoid. I've had far too many dates recently with girls I've got on with and thought "Wow, this was good, hopefully I get to see her again!" But then nothing happens when I talk to them again, they ignored me. Or I get slowly phased out. It's probably from past experience that I'm unsettled about things like this. For once I just thought I'd say how I feel. Getting let down constantly in the past plays on your mind. Yeah, so was I right or wrong on this?
edelweiss Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 Nobody is too busy to just send a quick message to somebody they're interested in. Seems like she's just keeping you on the hook/covering her on butt for not responding to your messages. My current fellow asked me the same night when he'd be able to see me again. I was overjoyed. If the chemistry is there, I don't think there's a "right time" or a time frame in which you have to orchestrate every move. I can speak from the perspective of most of my girl friends too, that, when they enjoy the time they spent with a guy, they'll either reach out if too much time has elapsed or just pray that he'll send a message/call soon!
todreaminblue Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 hey cipher i dotn think it matters if you waited a few days or not.....its useless for you to go what if...what is done is done.....and you can move....i wish you luck....deb
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