Jackson37 Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 Met a girl on tinder, we hit it off right away the first day. Next day we texted for several hours back and forth, it amplified as we had a bunch of the same interests. The 3rd day I text her in the morning and....no response. Its been 24 hrs. Is she no longer interested? Should I send another text or no? I know not to expect too much before even meeting her but its just a shame that this is going to waste when I feel like we both were getting along so well :/
oberkeat Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 What did you text her that morning? Did you ask her for another date?
Author Jackson37 Posted January 27, 2015 Author Posted January 27, 2015 What did you text her that morning? Did you ask her for another date? No we haven't even met yet. I planned to ask her for the first date that day after she responded but never did. I just texted her continuing the conversation from the previous night and said good morning haha I don't see what I did wrong
SycamoreCircle Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 With OLD, never have expectations. Not until you've actually met, made out, met again. Then you can have expectations. 4
oberkeat Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 Typically in online dating, the first ignored message is a hint to move on.
Jame22 Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 With OLD, never have expectations. Not until you've actually met, made out, met again. Then you can have expectations. And even if you have done all these things..She'll still dump you out of the blue. Be prepared dude. This is is just the tip of the iceberg. Whatever you do DO NOT SEND HER ANOTHER TEXT! Dating is like a tennis match. hit the ball over the net and wait for it to come back. If the ball never comes back, game over, move on. There's a pretty good chance she'll eventually get back to you if you leave her alone. If you send her another text the probability drops drastically.
Author Jackson37 Posted January 27, 2015 Author Posted January 27, 2015 Ahhh damn. That's what I figured too you guys but its just upsetting because we bonded so well. Unless she was making up all that stuff haha but I'll never know. It's just a shame is all, never felt that sort of a connection with anyone without even meeting them and I've been using tinder and OKC for several months now. I'll update if she ever gets back to me
Jame22 Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 I'll update if she ever gets back to me Good, I know it's hard but you cannot text her. I've had 3 girls from OLD come back weeks later after they realized I moved on and wasn't going to chase them. Trust me when I say silence is your best option. In the meantime start looking for someone else.
KatZee Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 I'll update if she ever gets back to me What for? This isn't even a thing. You haven't even met this person yet. I'll fill you in: people you meet off online sites are rarely who they portray themselves to be online. You're acting like this is some super serious connection. It's nothing. ESPECIALLY since this is Tinder. Tinder mainly booty call. 2
EgoJoe Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 In the future, once you get a number text for a bit and ask if they have time for a real conversation. Call then set the first date then and then do not initiate until the date. The day of the date or a few hours before tell her that you're looking forward to meeting her, see you at XXX TIME AND XXX PLACE. That's it.
Jame22 Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 ESPECIALLY since this is Tinder. Tinder mainly booty call. I agree with you for the most part. But I've met a lot of quality woman on Tinder and most people use it as a dating tool. I met my last (almost) girlfriend on Tinder.
SycamoreCircle Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 ANY girl who is interested bonds well with a guy. 1
Author Jackson37 Posted January 27, 2015 Author Posted January 27, 2015 What for? This isn't even a thing. You haven't even met this person yet. I'll fill you in: people you meet off online sites are rarely who they portray themselves to be online. You're acting like this is some super serious connection. It's nothing. ESPECIALLY since this is Tinder. Tinder mainly booty call. I was just going to update if people were curious haha I said in my first post I know not to expect too much In the future, once you get a number text for a bit and ask if they have time for a real conversation. Call then set the first date then and then do not initiate until the date. The day of the date or a few hours before tell her that you're looking forward to meeting her, see you at XXX TIME AND XXX PLACE. That's it. I think the texting vs. calling is a generational thing to be honest. I don't know anyone who calls, I just turned 21 so maybe calling will become more of a thing as I grow older but right now it just seems very awkward to me. I get what you mean though on not talking too much until the date. First day we only talked like 40min and I got her number before bed, next day was in the evening until bed (building a bit of rapport with several messages)...and I was about to ask on the date lol I guess next time I'll get right to it at the end of the first texting convo.
kaylan Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 If you havent met, just write it off as her not being interested. Thats how OLD is. Until you meet someone and truly click in person, don't really take virtual convos (like texting) too seriously. Always keep options and talk to multiple women until you find one who's got mutual interest in you.
the tank Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 welcome to OLD ! Happen all the time, she got bored. Next time after 3-4 messages invite her to a date . Stop losing time texting. Many girls are just there to kill time......
stillafool Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 I thought Tinder was just for people who want hookups. What did you expect from her?
Author Jackson37 Posted January 27, 2015 Author Posted January 27, 2015 I thought Tinder was just for people who want hookups. What did you expect from her? I guess I'm looking for something meaningful and while I know tinder is a "hookup app", I also know some people on tinder use it as a catalyst for similar ends. A good friend of mine met his now gf on tinder, they've been dating 8 months so far. I think my mistake was not asking her out sooner. I just thought I should build a bit of rapport for at least a day before doing so but I'll try being quicker about it next time!
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