Plinky Posted January 26, 2015 Posted January 26, 2015 I'm fairly new to the whole online dating thing after being in a long term relationship. I went on a date 4 days ago with a guy who seemed super keen to meet up again. We had a great date with a lot of laughs and very comfortable. He complimented me a lot in a none sleezy manner but now I'm wondering if he was just trying to get me in the sack there and then and not interested in dating! I waited till day 3 after the date and no contact-so I text him, he replied in a friendly manner a few times but no real questions by which to carry on the texts. I left it with a funny text about something he'd mentioned in the date and not heard from him since. Am I missing something? I might be being a little impatient but I am kinda confused!
Ebelskiver Posted January 26, 2015 Posted January 26, 2015 Welcome to online dating! It sucks. What you experienced is very common. You'll have a great date, maybe make plans for another, and them he just disappears. Don't take it personally. It's nothing to do with you. Maybe he's got someone he's more interested in, or an old gf came back into the picture. It doesn't even matter. The point is, you have to let this stuff slide off your back or you might as well stop OLD now, because this is the first of many, many times this will happen. 1
Author Plinky Posted January 26, 2015 Author Posted January 26, 2015 Thanks for the reply. I didn't realise OLD was so confusing ha. I guess I will live and learn. He wasn't really my type anyway -ha.
smg15 Posted January 26, 2015 Posted January 26, 2015 It's really no clear way to tell if someone is interested unless there is some kind of intimacy at the end of the date. People will say anything to avoid hurting someone's feelings A date I had last night I made sure I was funny and nice all the way until the end of the date because I knew it was no way I was going to be seen with her in public again lol
smg15 Posted January 26, 2015 Posted January 26, 2015 Welcome to online dating! It sucks. What you experienced is very common. You'll have a great date, maybe make plans for another, and them he just disappears. Don't take it personally. It's nothing to do with you. Maybe he's got someone he's more interested in, or an old gf came back into the picture. It doesn't even matter. The point is, you have to let this stuff slide off your back or you might as well stop OLD now, because this is the first of many, many times this will happen. Sometimes it happens before you meet and they just stop contacting you lol I guess it's a good thing because you didn't waste any time
Author Plinky Posted January 26, 2015 Author Posted January 26, 2015 I agree-I went on a date with another guy and i wanted to leave as soon as I seen him but I was polite and we had a laugh but like you said no intimacy at the end so obviously I wasn't interested. This guy I seen on thurs we had a full on pash at the end!-oh no maybe I'm a **** kisser-ha. Oh well I can live with that-I don't have to kiss myself!
LoveRefreshed Posted January 26, 2015 Posted January 26, 2015 The problem with OLD, is I think most guys get ignored while the top 10-20% get a lot of options. You are going to face a lot of this because really they have so many choices and are multi dating. If you're seeing three girls at a time, (I was seeing 2 at once from OLD and 1 that I met in real life), I could only manage seeing them once every other week. I am not even good looking. So if you are meeting with only the attractive ones, maybe he is seeing 4-6 girls and keeps getting more options. So you have to be absolutely amazing (and also fit his wants) for him to really get interested. 1
Author Plinky Posted January 27, 2015 Author Posted January 27, 2015 UPDATE The guy got in touch yesterday and we had another fun evening together. Maybe I need to be more patient : ) I think I need to stop overthinking things!
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