America11 Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 Me (25M) had a great first date the other night with a girl my age. It was our first time meeting, but we had several drinks each and talked for over 2 hours. We got along great while talking nonstop, similar personalities, and no awkwardness. I cant think of one bad thing that happened at all. She will be out of town for the next 3 weeks on business, but we both agreed we will have to get together again when she gets back. She even texted again that night thanking me again for drinks, I told her she is welcome and we will have to meet up when she gets back. She texted me back and agreed again. I will for sure call her when she gets back and ask her out again. But how do I keep her interested for the next few weeks and show her I am interested? I know I need to text her some to check in, but I dont want to text too much and look needy. Plus she will be very busy with her job. How often do I need to keep in contact with her? When i text her should I let her know I dont want to text too much since I know she is very busy? Would adding her on snapchat be weird since we just met one time? I think it would be a another good way to keep in touch. Just dont want to slow play this and mess it up, but her being out of town I think shell understand. Thanks!
doeblin Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 I know I need to text her some to check in, but I dont want to text too much and look needy. Yes, you have to balance it. You have to observe how she responds to your texts: if she's becoming distant, back off a little bit, if she's eager to talk to you, then talk to her more. I don't know the social norms surrounding snapchat, but it's just an app, so what's the harm? If you have steady banter texting, ask her whether she'd like to snapchat. Also, call once or twice.
Author America11 Posted January 26, 2015 Author Posted January 26, 2015 (edited) Yes, you have to balance it. You have to observe how she responds to your texts: if she's becoming distant, back off a little bit, if she's eager to talk to you, then talk to her more. I don't know the social norms surrounding snapchat, but it's just an app, so what's the harm? If you have steady banter texting, ask her whether she'd like to snapchat. Also, call once or twice. Yeah, I just know there is a fine line when it comes to this. Dont want to seem too eager, but also want to make my interest clear and not look distant. This will be her first big work project out of town and she will be working around the clock. So I know she will be stressed, and dont want to text or call her at the wrong time. Hopefully she will initiate some too, which will help. I did text her a few days after the date and she was very responsive and sending back lengthy texts to keep the convo going, so I did the same. I hope this means she is as interested as me. This lasted for several hours. I guess Ill wait a few days and text her again, dont want to text too much and run out of things to talk about. Edited January 26, 2015 by America11
Author America11 Posted January 31, 2015 Author Posted January 31, 2015 Bump. So we texted back and fourth for 5 days. She has a very busy job and not much time to text, but to hold I convo that long, I would think she is interested. She continued to text long, positive responses back, so I just went with it and reciprocated. Anyways, we did not talk yesterday for the first time since that 5 day texting binge. I hope taking a day break wasnt a mistake, but it was her first full day out of town for work so I wanted to give her time to settle in because I am sure it was hectic. Should I text her today and check in? Or would waiting another day be okay? I figure Sunday is a good day to check in because she may have some down time tomorrow. Plus I waited 2 days after I asked her out to text her and set up the date, and also waited 2 days to text her after the date and follow up. It seemed like a good time lapse and I got great responses waiting those 2 days each time. Like I said in an earlier post, normally I would have called and set up another date, but her being out of town makes it tricky. Thanks!
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