Dumper making contact, breadcrumbs again.

[I'mNotYourGirl]

Ok, so long story in short.

I was in long-distance relationship. (6 months in person, 3 in long-distance.He visited me once and i visited him too in these 3 months.) Big passion, many "i love you's", making future plans together, no fighting all lovey dovey and suddenly i have been dumped because he meeted somebody else in his country.

When he broke up with me he told me a lot of mean things, which really hurt me because we have never fight before and i didn't know him from this side.

I went cold no contact and deleted him from everywhere.

After 4 months of NC he send me message on facebbok "hi, i would like to know about you". I ignored it. Now after another 6 months of zero contact he send me another message: "Hi..(my pet name) how are you? It's been long time that we haven't spoke and i would really like to know how you doing? If you don't respond me i'm just hoping that all is alright with you, and you are doing well in your university. Kiss."

 

Now.. I really don't understand why he is doing this?? I admit i had kinda tough time moving on because i really feel for him deep, but why he is texting me?? It can't be a booty call because i live in different country so why he had to remember about me after such a long time?

 

I really wish somebody could tell me if is worth reply to him or leave it?

[Hija77]

Don't reply. He sounds like a jerk. Now that he's out of your life, why would you want to let him back in? And he adressed you by your former pet name? Insulting. He's just trying to sse if you'll take the bait again. If you want to communicate with him, that's up to you. It seems kind of pointless to me. What for?

[Satu]

Avoid him like the plague.

 

He's hurt you enough.

 

NC.

[marcelo.santos]

And he adressed you by your former pet name? Insulting. ?

 

Agree 100% - he is an idiot playing games.

 

 

Now.. I really don't understand why he is doing this?? I admit i had kinda tough time moving on because i really feel for him deep, but why he is texting me??

 

Probably it is exactly what he is texting: He is just curious about how you are doing - if he had you on facebook as friend, probably he would just visit your profile and never contact you.

 

He lives in another country, if both of you were on the same city I would suggest you to politely reply him to check a 5% chance of he is considering to trying again with you - but you both live in different countries.

 

I think that your chances of make it again is very very low, plus looks like that after almost 1 year you still have fillings for him - so my suggestion is to continue the good work and ignore him - this will prevent you to get hurt again and waste your 10 month NC you have now.

 

ignore it! Keep moving on - I know that it don't looks polite from you perspective, but it will be better for you: I'm sure that there is a lot of nice guys is Spain that would never met someone else when having you as gf - just keep going on...

[kendahke]

Ok, so long story in short.

I was in long-distance relationship. (6 months in person, 3 in long-distance.He visited me once and i visited him too in these 3 months.) Big passion, many "i love you's", making future plans together, no fighting all lovey dovey and suddenly i have been dumped because he meeted somebody else in his country.

When he broke up with me he told me a lot of mean things, which really hurt me because we have never fight before and i didn't know him from this side.

I went cold no contact and deleted him from everywhere.

After 4 months of NC he send me message on facebbok "hi, i would like to know about you". I ignored it. Now after another 6 months of zero contact he send me another message: "Hi..(my pet name) how are you? It's been long time that we haven't spoke and i would really like to know how you doing? If you don't respond me i'm just hoping that all is alright with you, and you are doing well in your university. Kiss."

 

Now.. I really don't understand why he is doing this?? I admit i had kinda tough time moving on because i really feel for him deep, but why he is texting me?? It can't be a booty call because i live in different country so why he had to remember about me after such a long time?

 

I really wish somebody could tell me if is worth reply to him or leave it?

 

 

He's checking to make sure the hook is still in your cheek.

 

It's not worth it to reply. Let him wonder. It won't kill him.