applej4 Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 (edited) A female friend has mentioned that she has had a few dates with a man I hadn’t heard about. Things are going good, and I asked how she met him. She said she was walking down the street, honked his horn, and pulled up near her. (This was in a public area, during the day.) I told her I’m glad it worked out, and she seems happy. But I also commented that I think a guy honking his horn, pulling up, motioning, etc. is (imo) kinda weird and tacky……also something more in line with what teenagers might do, not a grown man. If he was that interested/attracted, he could have pulled over, gotten out of the car, and said “Hi, excuse me, but my name is xxxx. I was wondering if you’d like to have coffee (or whatever).” From there a conversation could begin or the woman would say “No, thanks” and they would move on. It’s been a long time since I was approached by a horn-honker. The last time it happened I was a lot younger, we did chat as I stood outside his car, and we went out a few days later. Nothing came of it, but he didn’t take rejection well and became a problem. I’ve also had a few experiences where a man slows down, honks or says something indicating he is interested, I say “No, thanks” or ignore and he moves on. Also, I’d want to see some ID. Friend says maybe my unpleasant experience is coloring my opinion about ways that people try to meet/”hook up”/try to get a date. (Really...?)Thoughts? Edited January 25, 2015 by applej4
morrowrd Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 When it comes to a man meeting a woman, creativity sometimes is the key. How else are you going to meet anyone? There aren't any rules that says what is right and what is wrong when it comes to the means to an end. Hell, I wanted a "good girl" and went to 8 different churches in a town I moved to back in my twenties. If I walked in and the congregation was full of "old people" - I turned around and left, and went off to the next church. One of those times, an usher walked me out to my car and said, "if you're looking to meet girls, the assembly of god (gave me the addresss) has alot of young single women." Guess where I went after driving out of the parking lot? Yep, there - and I met my future wife the second night I attended. (and I never ever went back) Now my friend, I'm sure you're going to tell me what I did was wrong, just like the horn honker. However, it's not how you meet your future girlfriend that counts, it's what happens after. How you treat her. I'm old fashioned, and treat who I'm with like a lady. I feel that's really all that matters, that they are happy are being loved, and are treated well, given lots of attention. Although, I did get divorced from the church girl around 4 years ago. I've used online dating ever since, with pretty decent success. 2
SincereOnlineGuy Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 It’s been a long time since I was approached by a horn-honker. The last time it happened I was a lot younger, we did chat as I stood outside his car, and we went out a few days later. Nothing came of it, but he didn’t take rejection well and became a problem. LOL - there are people running around society, and around Loveshack, who would actually blame such things on the horn!!!!
evanescentworld Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 My first words would be "not that I hold anything against them, but I personally am not a hooker, chiefly because evidently, by the look of your car, you clearly couldn't afford me. Thanks for your interest anyway...." And walk off. 1
mario_C Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 I was "friends" with a guy who was a real player type, and the subject came up of catcalling - which as you know, is one of the more serious crimes plaguing society today - and why he would do it? The thing where the man honks and yells, "Hey, baby!" Why? Because women respond to it. They come over and enjoy his advances. And encourage him continuing to behave like that - and he will keep doing it, after he's dumped her and moved on to the next conquest. Just saying.
Noproblem Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 I am surprised to the fact that women actually stop and talk the honkers! I hold no respect to such guys when they honk the car, they will honk it anywhere and to anyone It's just too low! 2
KatZee Posted January 26, 2015 Posted January 26, 2015 I ignore all horn honkers. I find it tacky, lazy, inconsiderate, and sometimes scary. I've had guys pull up along side me as I'm walking, honk, then yell out the window. And when I keep walking they tell me I need to smile, or that I'm a bitch, or that I need to talk to them. I've had guys continue to ride along side me as I was walking. This type of "pick up" to me is horrible, awful, and the worst thing ever. 4
clevelander321 Posted January 26, 2015 Posted January 26, 2015 Yes it works.. Not every time, but some of the time.. And that is enough.
todreaminblue Posted January 26, 2015 Posted January 26, 2015 I am not a fan of horn honking to get my attention......and i dont think its a good idea to rely on honking your horn to get a date maybe if the horn played bohemian rhapsody by queen it might work..or signed sealed delivered im yours.....that would be novel...normally if a car is honking at me .....i jump because i am probably in its way...when its a goofy guy grinning at me pffft is my response.........deb 1
Author applej4 Posted January 27, 2015 Author Posted January 27, 2015 I actually dislike horn honking unless someone is trying to keep me from hitting something or someone. I was waiting for my niece to bring her car closer to the store entrance (had lots of bulky items) and I heard this BLARING horn. It was a co-worker from many yrs ago. I was like “Okay, I hear ya – Hi – now you can go already”. Sheesh. When I was a teen I remember a group of girls would sit on the porch and guys would cruise by slowly and honk their horn.
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