HeBrokeMyHeart Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 Okay so me and my ex finished about 2 months ago, we've been no contact since. We have the same social circle and I'm friends with his brother who I went to school with & have known longer then my ex. Anyways Friday night his brother came around with another one of our friend for a few drinks and a catch up. His brother was flirty all night & kept on touching me. Anyways long story short his hand ended up my top on my breast & we nearly kissed. I turned away, because this guy has a girlfriend!!! And I can't stand cheaters. I'm now majorly confused & at lost because I do like this guy. But he has a girlfriend & he's my exs brother!! Has anyone ever had the unfortunate events of nearly hooking up with an exs family member??
HowWillICope Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 STAY AWAY. This will only end badly. Plus he has a girlfriend! You are JUST as bad as him for letting him touch you inappropriately. How would you feel if YOUR boyfriend was feeling up another girl?? The end.
Kinetica84 Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 Okay so me and my ex finished about 2 months ago, we've been no contact since. We have the same social circle and I'm friends with his brother who I went to school with & have known longer then my ex. Anyways Friday night his brother came around with another one of our friend for a few drinks and a catch up. His brother was flirty all night & kept on touching me. Anyways long story short his hand ended up my top on my breast & we nearly kissed. I turned away, because this guy has a girlfriend!!! And I can't stand cheaters. I'm now majorly confused & at lost because I do like this guy. But he has a girlfriend & he's my exs brother!! Has anyone ever had the unfortunate events of nearly hooking up with an exs family member?? Firstly: He is a low life scum bag for going to kiss his brothers ex Secondly: He is a low life scum bag for going to kiss you when he has a girlfriend. I just got cheated on and it is the worst feeling in the world. Tell this guy to f*ck himself. If he is willing to betray his brother and his partner, do you really want to be the next in line for the betrayal? If you have any respect for your ex, you would stay well away. You said you hate cheaters. Then stay away. 1
towardthefuture Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 You should do it but only if you get the contract for your reality TV show solidified first. That means you should spend the next week pitching to TV execs in LA 2
Author HeBrokeMyHeart Posted January 25, 2015 Author Posted January 25, 2015 Don't worry. I don't plan on pursuing anything, but it has stirred up my feelings for him that I thought went away. My ex left me, so all in all it really shouldn't have nothing to do with him if anything where too happen. He's not a nasty guy and I generally think he was confused that night, he's had problems with his girlfriend for ages (I know, no excuse) just puts me in an awkward position.
towardthefuture Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 Don't worry. I don't plan on pursuing anything, but it has stirred up my feelings for him that I thought went away. My ex left me, so all in all it really shouldn't have nothing to do with him if anything where too happen. He's not a nasty guy and I generally think he was confused that night, he's had problems with his girlfriend for ages (I know, no excuse) just puts me in an awkward position. Cheaters will tell you all about their relationship problems whether they exist or not. If they were real deal breakers, they should break up and he should pursue other options. I wonder if he's told his girlfriend about all the problems he has with her and that he wants to sleep with other women? 1
Zahara Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 Don't worry. I don't plan on pursuing anything, but it has stirred up my feelings for him that I thought went away. My ex left me, so all in all it really shouldn't have nothing to do with him if anything where too happen. I don't understand. You ended with your ex 2 months ago. When did these "feelings" start to take place? He's not a nasty guy and I generally think he was confused that night, he's had problems with his girlfriend for ages (I know, no excuse) just puts me in an awkward position. Oh please. He knows not what he does. There's nothing confusing about knowing you have a girlfriend and that you shouldn't be putting your hand on another woman's breast and trying to kiss her. If he has problems with relationships or his girlfriend, then he shouldn't be in a relationship. Confused is not a pass to act inappropriately.
Author HeBrokeMyHeart Posted January 25, 2015 Author Posted January 25, 2015 He's never discussed his problems as such with me. Being close friends I've witnessed there arguments first hand & him being put through it. I'm not even sure he'd go through with it, he does love her I just think the stress off it all is dragging him down. I know it's no excuse and he has tried to fix things with her all the time. He's not a terrible guy I just think he's a very confused guy on what he wants at the momdnt
Kinetica84 Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 Don't worry. I don't plan on pursuing anything, but it has stirred up my feelings for him that I thought went away. My ex left me, so all in all it really shouldn't have nothing to do with him if anything where too happen. He's not a nasty guy and I generally think he was confused that night, he's had problems with his girlfriend for ages (I know, no excuse) just puts me in an awkward position. You're kidding right? He is a nice guy? No he is not. It doesn't matter if your his brother left your or not. He has a girlfriend already and he was going to kiss you. Lets say you get with him. How could you ever trust him, knowing he was about to kiss when he has girl. Bury your feelings and go get with someone else. 1
Allumere Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 OMG...STOP DEFENDING HIM. I don't care if he is saint, a war hero, a savior of abused critters. He was wrong for crossing the line. You can forgive and never ever ever ever speak with him again but do not cover up, defend or excuse his actions. 1
Kinetica84 Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 He's never discussed his problems as such with me. Being close friends I've witnessed there arguments first hand & him being put through it. I'm not even sure he'd go through with it, he does love her I just think the stress off it all is dragging him down. I know it's no excuse and he has tried to fix things with her all the time. He's not a terrible guy I just think he's a very confused guy on what he wants at the momdnt Please stop defending him. You are trying to rationalize your feelings for him and to see if anyone will say to you "yeah it's okay if you get with him" I think you have already made up your mind and you're going to do it anyway, you're just looking for support and the go ahead. I doubt you will get any takers here.
Author HeBrokeMyHeart Posted January 25, 2015 Author Posted January 25, 2015 I'm not defending him. He is a nice guy. No what he did wasn't a good thing. But I'm sorry people make mistakes all the time in life, we all do bad things doesn't make us bad people. That's all I'm trying to say. No one is a saint in this life, and nothing got followed through with it. I'm not defending what happened, as I don't like it also but because he nearly made a mistake does not make him a terrible person. I will not be pursuing it, because he has a girlfriend and because I also do not want a relationship with anyone full stop. I'm taking this time for me & to get myself back.
Zahara Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 I'm not defending him. He is a nice guy. No what he did wasn't a good thing. But I'm sorry people make mistakes all the time in life, we all do bad things doesn't make us bad people. That's all I'm trying to say. No one is a saint in this life, and nothing got followed through with it. I'm not defending what happened, as I don't like it also but because he nearly made a mistake does not make him a terrible person. I will not be pursuing it, because he has a girlfriend and because I also do not want a relationship with anyone full stop. I'm taking this time for me & to get myself back. He was flirting with you all night. He was slowly warming up a situation that could possibly end up in him having more than a grope and a kiss. It only stopped because you did. He had intent and he knew what he was doing. That's no mistake. It's good that you realize that you should be staying away and focusing on your life. 2
Allumere Posted January 26, 2015 Posted January 26, 2015 I'm not defending him. He is a nice guy. No what he did wasn't a good thing. But I'm sorry people make mistakes all the time in life, we all do bad things doesn't make us bad people. That's all I'm trying to say. No one is a saint in this life, and nothing got followed through with it. I'm not defending what happened, as I don't like it also but because he nearly made a mistake does not make him a terrible person. I will not be pursuing it, because he has a girlfriend and because I also do not want a relationship with anyone full stop. I'm taking this time for me & to get myself back. sounds like a defense to me.
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