mortensorchid Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 I just watched the Elvis and Me TV movie a while ago about the relationship between Elvis Presley and his wife Priscilla Presley and it made me think about their relationship. Granted, this was an extraordinary situation between her and him (his being a celebrity, her being an innocent 14 year old, living in different countries, etc.) and it couldn't be replicated no matter how hard you try. While watching it, I realized that this was a Barbie Doll relationship, in that he tried to make her into what he felt was the perfect woman and she went along with it with the way she dressed to make him happy and tried to be all that he wanted her to be. I have met a few in my lifetime who have had a Barbie Doll relationship - in that the woman made herself into something that she wasn't before (dressing slutty, acting slutty, etc.) in order to make the man happy. Has anyone else ever been in such a relationship? One does not have to dress slutty in order to make the other party be sexually attracted to them, but it could be something very simple like "Wear that blue sweater, I like you in that blue sweater." Eventually Priscilla, like a lot of others who change or want another identity other than what the other party wants them to be, grew up and realized this wasn't the best thing for either of them. What does it do to you? I would think you would learn things about yourself in this situation.
evanescentworld Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 I just watched the Elvis and Me TV movie a while ago about the relationship between Elvis Presley and his wife Priscilla Presley ......I realized that this was a Barbie Doll relationship, in that he tried to make her into what he felt was the perfect woman and she went along with it with the way she dressed to make him happy and tried to be all that he wanted her to be. I have met a few in my lifetime who have had a Barbie Doll relationship - in that the woman made herself into something that she wasn't before (dressing slutty, acting slutty, etc.) in order to make the man happy. .... I'm so sorry... reading the above, reminded me of this: "A young woman is in line to see Santa. When it's her turn, she climbs up on Santa's lap. Santa asks, "What would you like Santa to bring you for Christmas?" She replies, "I want a Barbie and a G.I. Joe." Santa looks at her for a moment and says, "I thought Barbie comes with Ken." "No," she said, "She comes with G.I. Joe, she fakes it with Ken." I knew one woman in the UK who dressed in particular way because her H liked her to do so. I've never met a woman so uncomfortable in her own skin. She confided in me that she was dying to be 'herself' but that if she did things she wanted to, her husband would sulk for days. Passive/aggressive control. He never became verbally abusive or physically, either. Bt she just had to put up with stroppy, moody, 'stomping around like a 9-year-old' tantrums.... Don't know whatever became of that one....
preraph Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 In my long life I've never known any woman who went all the way to become the guy's ideal. But most women will make at least one concession toward that end, such as one friend of mine's husband likes red nails and lips, so that's what she wears. All my friends would draw the line at anything much beyond that.
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