enchanted771 Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 Been seeing this guy exclusively for 1.5 months. This morning I'm on Instagram and I see he adds this 21 year old girl from Instagram webcam. Then he opens this kik chat program and adds the pic on Instagram. I smell a rat. He never picks up my calls but yet last night he complained I didn't call!! This is about character and he told me he doesn't want to see other people and now he's going behind my back chatting and prob going ok webcam.
mammasita Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 I'm a bit confused about the situation based on this post alone but if he never answers when you call, how do you communicate? Does he reply to text? Ultimately trust your gut. I'm willing to bet though, you have a few more red flags about him that you didn't share?
Gaeta Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 I am counting 9 threads about this guy since you started dating 6 weeks ago. Obviously it's not working for you. It's not normal to be displeased about so many things so quickly. Admit this is not the type of dating you are expecting from a man. You need someone more into you and more present. 3
Author enchanted771 Posted January 25, 2015 Author Posted January 25, 2015 I saw him add a girl from Instagram with webcam photos. Then I saw him create a kik acct. I'm probably jumping to conclusions about things I mean we haven't even had sex yet. I basically think I'm going to have to have a convo with him about how he thinks that things are going. If he feels he's being tied down then it's best to know. We were going to be together next week and he's been single and celibate (supposedly) for 1.5 years so maybe this is what he's been doing. Just thought it was off how he opens the Instagram acct (or at least posts it) this morning right after he likes that girls page. Is this just how men are???
thecrucible Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 It's not normal to be displeased about so many things so quickly. Gaeta's right. Do you really want this kind of emotional rollercoaster? You'll soon get fed up and wonder why you bothered. Relationships are work that's true, but they shouldn't feel hard in the beginning. That's something a learnt about a few bad experiences of my own. You learn the right kind of guy to appreciate after a while
evanescentworld Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 Guy I'm seeing went behind my back...how do I handle this? .....now he's going behind my back chatting and prob going ok webcam. How do you handle this? Like a bag of doggy-poo you just picked up behind your pooch. Tie a knot in it, hurl it into a bin, and move on. It's a lovely day for a stroll with the dog, buying a pizza, sitting in the park, feeding the birds - and, oh yes.... dumping the cheating player. 3
kendahke Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 I saw him add a girl from Instagram with webcam photos. Then I saw him create a kik acct. I'm probably jumping to conclusions about things I mean we haven't even had sex yet. I basically think I'm going to have to have a convo with him about how he thinks that things are going. If he feels he's being tied down then it's best to know. We were going to be together next week and he's been single and celibate (supposedly) for 1.5 years so maybe this is what he's been doing. Just thought it was off how he opens the Instagram acct (or at least posts it) this morning right after he likes that girls page. Is this just how men are??? Have you two had a talk about exclusivity or your relationship being a committed one yet? Does he understand that you consider him to be your boyfriend with all the expectations which come with that role? If Instachick is 21, then how old are you two?
Author enchanted771 Posted January 25, 2015 Author Posted January 25, 2015 I'm going to talk about it with him tonight. We are 43.
Author enchanted771 Posted January 25, 2015 Author Posted January 25, 2015 Gaeta's right. Do you really want this kind of emotional rollercoaster? You'll soon get fed up and wonder why you bothered. Relationships are work that's true, but they shouldn't feel hard in the beginning. That's something a learnt about a few bad experiences of my own. You learn the right kind of guy to appreciate after a while Your right. I think when a guy is that into you that you know it. You never have To question if he does, or when you will see him or anything. Because he will make it really obvious.
Gaeta Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 I'm going to talk about it with him tonight. We are 43. Seriously, at 43 I expect a man to be off all of those Kik Instagram and stuff. I would not date a man of that age that feels the need to be on every social medias adding women half his age.
kendahke Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 I'm going to talk about it with him tonight. We are 43. Ooooh, yeah... that's a bit on the creepy side for him to be dealing with Instachick. Good luck with your talk.
evanescentworld Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 I'm going to talk about it with him tonight. We are 43. Seriously, no insult, but I really thought 'college kids'... He's messing around with girls technically young enough to be his daughters... Really?! Ugh.... 1
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