Author sfbvarela Posted January 27, 2015 Author Posted January 27, 2015 Damn. Good input from everyone. Generally im leaning towards alex's opinion since he is giving me hope. It may be false hope i dont know but still is hope. Im also not shutting down the opinion of others. Ill stay NC and see whats going to happen. As I said in my previpus thread this is my first serious heart break, not my first gf though, so its really tough to forget. Im sticking to nc even though its really hard. I guess ill see how i feel after 3 weeks. If i have moved on completely and end upj being fwb that's rather fine with me too.
AlexfromBoston Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 (edited) Damn. Good input from everyone. Generally im leaning towards alex's opinion since he is giving me hope. It may be false hope i dont know but still is hope. Im also not shutting down the opinion of others. Ill stay NC and see whats going to happen. As I said in my previpus thread this is my first serious heart break, not my first gf though, so its really tough to forget. Im sticking to nc even though its really hard. I guess ill see how i feel after 3 weeks. If i have moved on completely and end upj being fwb that's rather fine with me too. SB, there is always hope my man. Now what I am telling you isn't the Gospel, but its the best way to handle the situation you have at hand. If you just jump into action without developing a game plan, you are going to fail. You are going to fall victim to your own emotions and resort to begging and pleading. This is the absolute worst way to handle a scenario. All men do this in the early stages, but if you can't make adjustments in the latter rounds, you will fall. So now, continue NC and wait out the storm. Like I said, I would recommend a month or so. Then reconnect and establish a connection. Through this connection you are going to want to drive out old emotions. Trust me, this "cool guy" wont replace you. And worst case scenario, you fail and just prolong the hurt. Oh well, it'll make you stronger and more experienced anyways. But that why it is important to meet some new girls in the meantime. There are a lot of naysayers on this forum, but what I am telling you is the truth. Edited January 27, 2015 by AlexfromBoston
Simon Phoenix Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 Nothing is solved in a month. If you are serious about healing and being a better man, then you need a lot more than a month. A month is dumb. At best, all you are doing is getting into a destructive break-up/make-up cycle that does nothing but keep you in limbo. At worst, you are going to be devastated again and back to square one. If you are just looking for ass and nothing more, then Alex's advice has value. If you are looking to be a better man and have a better relationship based on love instead of getting off, with your ex or someone new, his advice isn't going to get you there. If anything, it'll hold you back.
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