lostttt Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 Well.. Here it is. I'll try to make this short but. My ex and I have been having problems since two months ago about. And it was because I had gotten on his fb and saw this girl (I knew he met her) but he told me she was just a friend in the beginning. and he didn't like her that way. Also he told me too that this other girl he was interested in he was no longer liking her cause of me. well time went on and such. he came to see me and a month after he asked me out and i got onto his fb and saw messages I didn't wanna see we had been fighting. Why? Because he told me he got sick on the bus when he got back... from this girls house. found out no, he got sick cause of her.. and he had sex with her a month before we started dating. And didn't tell me.. and he told her the day before that he loved her and she was only to make him happy made her his backup plan and also said he felt like an idiot for falling for me... Well I didn't like it and we had a fight for two weeks and I started to stop... then I got on his fb cause he wanted me to see something and then I saw messages from the girl he had no longer had interest in. And he asked also the day before we met if she still wanted to try... Now should I stop fighting with him about it after a month and a half?.. Am I the bad guy for being mad at him for it? idk... there is so much more to this story I just wanted opinions on this..
Ebelskiver Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 What, or who, he did before he met you is none of your business. However, if he is portraying himself as single online now, then you have every right to be upset. Although, he's allowed to have friends message him, even if they're girls. I'd quit snooping on his FB. It's just making you unhappy.
Gaeta Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 I read your post about 3 times and I am not sure I got all the chronology right. So you got on his FB and discovered things he said and did before you started dating and that upsets you. That does not count and is not of your concern. Then you broke up, because you refer to him as being your 'ex' and you go on his FB and find out things he's done after you broke up and that upsets you. Again, that does not count and is not of your concern.
Author lostttt Posted January 25, 2015 Author Posted January 25, 2015 No. After we broke up I didn't care. And it was the day before we met and then he decided he wanted me and not the other girls. :/ how does someone change their mind that fast? and then he still talked to them (the other girl I didn't care about because she had a bf anyways) but the one he met he still talked to her and was upset all the time that he couldn't talk to her. :/ I found out he did that the day before not shortly after he was up til 4 AM messaged them both and then we met at 11 AM... so honestly.. Am I the bad guy for being like this?
evanescentworld Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 No, but he's your ex. It's over. Don't go stressing about stuff in the past that you can't change, or have any control over. What is it you want, an apology? An acknowledgment that he acted like a pig? Not going to ahppen, is it? Move on. Never wast time second-guessing or hind-thinking. neither works, and frankly it all just keeps you stuck....
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