Avante91 Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 But first I will find myself again, get back in amazing shape. Be healthy mentally and physically. I will overcome my anxiety and depression. I will look into myself and be honest and truthful, for once I shall confront my fears and shortcomings and fix them. I will find my independence, my strength I will not contact her I will not break no contact. (21days today!) I feel calm. We are over I've accepted that. I'm no longer in denial. I miss her company but I don't miss the dysfunctional relationship or the lack of respect we had for each other. I love her and I will become the best version of myself I can be. 7 weeks since breakup together 2 years broke up and reconciled for 1 year (by strict NC she came back). The mistake we made was we worked on ourselves but then let the relationship go back to how it was..we rushed it. This time I will take it slow, I will implement the changes. If all else fails at least I can be happy knowing I gave her space, improved myself for myself and gave love a real chance. This is just my statement - I'll update when the day comes either she comes back or I truly love myself and love her enough to let go. Either way I will make it and so will all of you! Love is rare don't waste it no matter how hopeless, down, depressed, rejected you feel right now...don't quit! You are already in pain get something out of it!!! Use this as the spark to ignite the fire within you, use it as motivation. You have greatness within you realise it! Regards Avante X 3
Ieris Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 ...love her enough to let go. This is one thing I learnt that has made letting go so much more easier... 1
Author Avante91 Posted January 24, 2015 Author Posted January 24, 2015 This is one thing I learnt that has made letting go so much more easier... Just like that song "only know you love her when you let her go...and you let her go" This breakup was a surprise it knocked me for 6..but man am I transforming my life everyday of NC I improve. If she comes back amazing. If she doesn't I will find someone amazing. 1
dumbass2 Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 Just please, for your sake, take her out of the equation. I know you love her. A lot of still have love for our ex and we know in our hearts that it will never be. I like everything you say except for including her and saying you will get her back. You are doing this for you and if you are still available, IF she ever contacts you again, then maybe, but please do not hope for that. Everything you do from here on out has to be for and about you only and you have to have that mind set. 1
Author Avante91 Posted January 24, 2015 Author Posted January 24, 2015 Just please, for your sake, take her out of the equation. I know you love her. A lot of still have love for our ex and we know in our hearts that it will never be. I like everything you say except for including her and saying you will get her back. You are doing this for you and if you are still available, IF she ever contacts you again, then maybe, but please do not hope for that. Everything you do from here on out has to be for and about you only and you have to have that mind set. I did NC last year for 3 month and she turned up at my door. I was over her..but still loved her. She will make contact I know her, except this time she will have to show me she's changed or I will move on. I know it's all about me now. Getting her back doesn't mean being in a relationship per se, I will get her attention back and then decide if I even want it I appreciate your sentiment, I've already been in this situation before Regards
dumbass2 Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 Best of luck. It sounds like it is going to work out for you either way 1
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