zevbda Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 (edited) Hello, I'm in a LDR with this girl. She and I knew each other in middle school but moved away from each other. Thanks for reading in advance... means a lot if you could leave a comment! I'm 19 now, and shes 18. She randomly messaged me 7 months ago and then we started talking and texting an awful lot of times. Like once every 5 minutes. After 4 months, she suggested we started dating but I politely said no since I was never in a LDR. About a week after I slept with a girl and she was deeply hurt although we weren't dating. Then after another month she started seeing someone and shared a kiss... shortly after we decided we both still have strong feelings for each other and agreed to date. Now I had other much more local options but I just really liked her a lot. So i told her to stop seeing him and she agreed. EDIT: ALSO, she wasn't trying to quickly move on, we talked about it soooo much and thoroughly for like 5 days. So after two months into our relationship, she tells me one night that she has something serious to talk about. So we talked and she said she's been talking to the guy you said not to talk to for two weeks and let him take her virginity. I honestly didn't get too mad because I was like, "hoes aint loyal" but i was still determined to get the real answer. So she called me that night telling me how sorry she was and she just cried for 2 hours... especially when i said "all i ever did was love you and be loyal to you" so yeah. But I kept asking her why you did it and she kept saying "IDK" I asked why did you let him over, and she said she honestly just had him over as a friend because she hasn't had a lot of male company. (she wasn't even wearing matching lingerine) She said that she didn't enjoy any of it, and during the whole time she kept thinking about me and felt guilty. Also, she was previously raped before. So four days after she told me I told her I'm done with you, thats when she broke. She said he raped her and that she resisted but that he dragged her into a room. She said she was too embarrassed to really tell me what happened. She said she didn't resist TOO much because previously saying NO never really worked, even tho in this situation she did say no three times but he kept insisting. I honestly do believe her... but I dont believe her for some reasons... I mean at one point she said they did it again in the morning the 2nd and 3rd time.... and then she said it only lasted a couple minutes... Then another time she said she pushed him off the second and third time.... She said she already stopped talking to him. and when i said i dont want to be with you, she said PLEASE STOP PUSHING ME AWAY, IM TRYING TO BE COMMITTED TO YOU.. She kept telling me she was so tired of rape (happened on two occasions, one filed and one was not fully completed, her parents walked in) that she just wanted it to look like it was just "sex"... What do you think?... Edited January 24, 2015 by zevbda wanted to add on
Jenmarie Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 (edited) Okay, first she breaks down and confesses to cheating practically. Then the second you break up with her, she screams rape? Sounds like a bunch of bull**** to me. She seemed desperate to keep you. When it didn't seem like you were leaving, she stuck to her story and cried and apologized, but the second you said you were leaving- she screams rape? If she was really raped, she would have either not told you any of it because of feeling ashamed, or she would of told you it was rape to begin. I honestly think she got panicked, got scared and desperate and cried rape when you said you were leaving. Honestly, just a bunch of bullcrap to me. This is what makes me so mad in society. A lot of women cry rape for attention, to keep partners. They fake rapes, pregnancies, miscarriages- which is beyond ****ed up using a woman's traumatic experience just to gain something for themselves. It's selfish and cruel. This isn't the kind of woman you want in your life. I'm pretty confident she just said that so you would stay with her. And if she was somehow raped, you can't prove it. I'm sure she has showered since then (no rape test kit) and she didn't press charges at all. And you'll be stuck wondering if it was really rape or not. Plus, why would she need male attention if she has you? Are her female friends and your attention not enough? If she's been raped so many times, it really looks shady to me, I don't know. I'm not a judge, but you're constantly going to wonder since it really looks bad. So he apparently raped her 2-3 times? And she just "pushed him off?" I know if I were in that situation I wouldn't "just push him off." I WOULD FIGHT, scream, yell, ANYTHING. Was anyone there? Someone HAD to of heard something. I honestly doubt this guy raped her numerous times, come on... and it's just too convienent that she screamed rape when you said you were leaving. Edited January 24, 2015 by Jenmarie
Rainoflight Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 Wow. Do you know the guy? Can you talk to him? I think he can give you a genuine answer of what actually happen. And a real on. Otherwise, i am with the user from above, she is lying, no doubt in my mind.
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