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2 months seeing each other. We've been texting alot then on thursday he ignored me?

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Hey guys

So I met this guy on grindr 2 months ago. We hung out after 3 weeks of talking to each other. First hangout was great, he paid for dinner and desserts and drove me home. Said he was totally down to see me again and 'extremely glad we met'.

Then I asked him on a 'date' 2-3 weeks after our first hangout. He agreed and we went for dinner and to a bar afterwards

At the bar we both got a few drinks and were both very sober, I was a bit tipsy but still aware of everything.

I told him I really like him and He told me he really likes me too. We both made out for hours and i asked him if he would date me and he said yes.

But the day after that night, he acted as if we're not really dating. It was a hot and cold kind of thing. I didn't pay any mind to that because I'm so used to guys being hot and cold after the 'talk'.

 

 

Fast forward, I've been playing hard to get since I feel like Ive been initiating things more than him. And it worked fr a while, he initiated messages twice in a row, took him both 2-3 days to initiate.

The last time he initiated was this monday, out of the blue he became talkative and we texted for 5 hours.

On that night we texted, i passed out on him towards the end of convo.

I texted him the followin morning (tuesday) apologizing for passing out on him and stuff, and asked how his day was. I saw him online on fb but he ignored my text, for 3 hours. Nt sure if that was him giving me the 'punishment' for passing out on him or what, but anyways he replied, I replied, then he replied and I stopped textinf (cause i was still playing hard to get).

 

We didnt text on wednesday but on thursday I finally initiated texting, i sent him a funny meme saying WELL HELLO THERE >:3 with a text 'how are you?!'

And he hasnt replied ever since.

 

Out of the blue he ignores me. This happened before once or twice, but he had a legitimate excuse (he had a ****ty iphone4 and sometimes it doesnt receive my texts, he showed it to me on our first hangout).

But he got a new iphone 6 recently and I assume he doesnt have that issue anymore. So what gives? Is he just 'too busy' with his work? I do notice hes rarely on facebook, and hes been offline, but he would still go on for about an hour.

 

Should I give him the benefit of the doubt and text him today? Or should I play it cool until he texts me? What do youguys think?

 

P.s: I think this is a big deal when he said that he's stopped going on the dating website he met me after we started texting on the first hangout, which is true.

 

Am I overreacting? I texted him at 2:30 pm on Thursday and still no reply today

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Omg is this real life?!

 

Can't play hard to get then cry foul when you get it back..it doesn't work that way.

 

If I were you I wouldn't text him anymore until he text you first and if he doesn't I'd consider the matter closed. Most guys when they lose interest they don't have the balls to say it so instead they just slowly fade away.

 

Or he could just be busy,but in my experience if a guy is really into you he'll say hi no matter how busy he was. Even if it's only a quick text to check in with you.

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Omg is this real life?!

 

Can't play hard to get then cry foul when you get it back..it doesn't work that way.

 

If I were you I wouldn't text him anymore until he text you first and if he doesn't I'd consider the matter closed. Most guys when they lose interest they don't have the balls to say it so instead they just slowly fade away.

 

Or he could just be busy,but in my experience if a guy is really into you he'll say hi no matter how busy he was. Even if it's only a quick text to check in with you.

 

 

Very true about spending some time texting someone you like even if ure busy.

 

Im not crying foul about it. I did it because I felt like Ive initiated convos way more than he did, even the hangouts. I did it because I didnt want to appear clingy, and I want to regain his interest. I guess for some reason it backfires? Maybe he likes it when I chase? Idk I cant read the guy at all.

 

I thought he was very different than the rest of the guys i dated. Hes very honest, kind, down to earth, and friendly

 

He doesnt flirt with me that often on text either (even when he first messaged me).

 

Should I just let him go? I feel like blocking him on FB after he ignored me the whole day. But that would be an overreaction I must admit

 

 

I ****ing hate rejection and disappointments.

Ive been single for 3 years and most guys have always pulled the hot and cold on me. Idkwhat im doing wrong Im nice, smart, goodlooking, and have my head straight.

 

Sigh..

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Stop basing your dating life on TEXTING and start basing your dating life on actual human interaction and face-to-face conversation...

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Stop basing your dating life on TEXTING and start basing your dating life on actual human interaction and face-to-face conversation...

 

 

But how do u meet them in the first place without texting? Lol

 

And to be fair i met him at a dating app so..

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But how do u meet them in the first place without texting? Lol

 

And to be fair i met him at a dating app so..

 

I think what this poster means is stop playing games! Like what?! You like the guy and are having a conversation with him but then just stop replying because you're "playing hard to get?" More like "playing games" . Personally I give no attention to girls like you so he probably just said forget it just like I would have.

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I think what this poster means is stop playing games! Like what?! You like the guy and are having a conversation with him but then just stop replying because you're "playing hard to get?" More like "playing games" . Personally I give no attention to girls like you so he probably just said forget it just like I would have.

 

I stopped replying because his text didnt warrant a reply.

And please, the guy is playing games too im sure, I'm only doing it because I think he's playing hard to get.

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@ dustpull - Don't message him anymore, you don't want him to think you're keen and desperate. A lot of my friends go on Grindr (even if they have a boyfriend already), mostly looking for a bit of fun, nothing serious. So, just wondering if it is the best place to look for a boyfriend? Has he still been using the app?

 

He may be playing hard to get or someone else has got his attention (sorry! - i hope that's not the case). Go out and have fun this weekend, don't waste too much energy on him.. x

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@ dustpull - Don't message him anymore, you don't want him to think you're keen and desperate. A lot of my friends go on Grindr (even if they have a boyfriend already), mostly looking for a bit of fun, nothing serious. So, just wondering if it is the best place to look for a boyfriend? Has he still been using the app?

 

He may be playing hard to get or someone else has got his attention (sorry! - i hope that's not the case). Go out and have fun this weekend, don't waste too much energy on him.. x

 

I actually messaged him yesterday (on saturday), just a simple 'hey how are you on this snowy evening? :)'

Trust me I hate looking desperate as well, but my friend suggested that 'sometimes when it comes to winning a relationship, you gotta lose some' so I might as well just give him the benefit of the doubt.

 

He replied, he said 'i was driving and saw this text and I was like, great he thinks i hate him now' I'm not sure if that's a reference of him ignoring my text from thursday.

Then he went on to say that he's sick, and he's beenrecovering.

We texted back and forth a bit, with me ending the convo with "you better get well soon so we can hangout again :) If you're down lol'

4 hours after I texted that (which kinda really pissed me off and turned me off too, since hes been replyin relatively fast before) he replied with a simple "Im down :D'

 

 

 

Conclusion? Not worth my time. I thought this guy was different. I thought he was interested in me. I guess he was but for whatever reason we just kinda drew apart. But I'm not into games anymore and I'll never initiate texting until he shows interest that being said if I'm still interested. If not then thats his loss!

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