smg15 Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 I have transitioned from tinder to texting Texting is not a natural way to get to know someone
Author cbplayer Posted January 30, 2015 Author Posted January 30, 2015 So in a nutshell you think that ultimately, my personality is holding me back from success with women? Am I right? I just want to make sure I understand.
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Author cbplayer Posted January 31, 2015 Author Posted January 31, 2015 Do you guys think that it would be worth my time and money to invest in something of this nature? New York #1 Dating Coach - Start Meeting and Dating Singles in NY I'd appreciate it if I could get some opinions.
evanescentworld Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 The tragedy is that nobody on a word-driven forum can help you. Please forgive me for saying so, but you just don't get it - you haven't a single clue of how to interact with women. And it isn't as if people haven't been trying to help you. Either you're not getting it because you sincerely don't have a clue, or your self-esteem is so low, you have absolutely no belief in yourself whatsoever. I suggest you actually wait until you graduate, then go on holiday and get away from your local scene. You claim that the environment you have grown up in has honed you to be tough. That's bull. Tough means confident. All you've done is don the garb of an outer shell to mask your inner weakness. You say you've read books, and done all manner of research, and read articles and whatnot... The best way to find out what to do is to find someone - in your circle - who's good at it. And at age 21, you have plenty of time ahead of you. My goodness, most guys don't get much off the ground before they're in their mid-late 20's! You need to stop obsessing. How about asking your dad how he met girls and married your mom? You could do worse.... 1
smg15 Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 The tragedy is that nobody on a word-driven forum can help you. Please forgive me for saying so, but you just don't get it - you haven't a single clue of how to interact with women. And it isn't as if people haven't been trying to help you. Either you're not getting it because you sincerely don't have a clue, or your self-esteem is so low, you have absolutely no belief in yourself whatsoever. I suggest you actually wait until you graduate, then go on holiday and get away from your local scene. You claim that the environment you have grown up in has honed you to be tough. That's bull. Tough means confident. All you've done is don the garb of an outer shell to mask your inner weakness. You say you've read books, and done all manner of research, and read articles and whatnot... The best way to find out what to do is to find someone - in your circle - who's good at it. And at age 21, you have plenty of time ahead of you. My goodness, most guys don't get much off the ground before they're in their mid-late 20's! You need to stop obsessing. How about asking your dad how he met girls and married your mom? You could do worse.... Maybe if some of you can provide some examples of what to say to women that would help out the OP a little. I am almost similar to the OP and would probably do better in my interactions with women if I had an idea of what type of things I should be saying
wb1988 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Maybe if some of you can provide some examples of what to say to women that would help out the OP a little. Ok these are a few examples: 1. POF Her: so I hear you like blondes (she's referring to me mentioning that I like blondes on my profile) Me: Yes you already got 1 point just for being blonde and another for being cute Her: where do you come from? (I mentioned I'm new to London) Me: the states, I moved about 2-3 weeks ago. Me:your parents are going to be so shocked when you introduce an american guy (jk). Her: LOL I asked for her number and we meet, blah blah. Went on 2 dates nothing more. 2. AYI app Me: Hey, so how are you finding England? (she mentioned she's from Latvia) Her: good what about you? Me: Great, hey I'm not great at messaging would you like to meetup on xxx day? Her: why not I asked for her number and we meet up, dated for about 6 months. 3. Last week, girl I gave my number to at McD's Her: It was a bad idea to write your number on the tissue I almost lost it Me: Hi, who is this? Her: do you give your number to a lot of girls? Me: no, only you baby Me: you must be that cute girl from mcdonalds Me: what was your name again? Her: xxxxx Me: hey lets meetup at the starbucks across the park, is friday 7pm good? Her: actually I can't (blah) but how about anytime sunday? I asked for her number and we meet up, blah blah. Went on 1 date and decided not to text her back because it wasn't a pleasant experience ;/
Gary S Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 I only read the opening post, but make sure you are working out. Also, texting is one of the worst forms of communication known to man. Call her on the phone for a date, and ease up on the texting.
katiegrl Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 I responded on your other thread. The one you started today. So did many others. Perhaps a mod should combine them, since many are responding to your new one and this one...simultaneously Gets confusing when there is more than one thread going on at the same time re the same topic.
mightycpa Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 The problem that I keep having is that girls barely reply to my text messages. I'll often meet a girl and get her number. We then text for a bit and then maybe after a day of texting each other, the girl will just stop replying randomly. It's been happening over and over again. It happens at alarming rates. Stop texting so much. Try calling or tweeting or facebooking or something instead. I try to incorporate humor into my texts. I try not to double text a girl i.e. if she doesn't text me back right away, I'll just wait for a reply and oftentimes she doesn't reply. I can't get girls on dates because they won't text me back, since I can't get dates, I can't get a girlfriend... doing it that way. So stop doing it that way. I've been trying consistently for about 4 years now and I've yet to succeed. It's very disheartening to me to see a lot of my guy friends with girlfriends or hooking up while I can't even get a girl to text me back . It has gotten to the point that it is really consuming my thoughts and depressing me. I do have friends. I workout and play sports. I put myself in social environments but the problem still persists. I don't send sexual messages. I really cannot pinpoint the problem. The problem is whatever you're texting. No doubt this turns the women off. If you say this stuff to their face instead on an FB post, at least you'll get the feedback that you need to improve. But texting? All you'll get is silence when you cross over the line. I don't want to hear the cliche " You'll find someone one day" because quite frankly, that's not guaranteed. I know that I'm young but I'd really like to nip this problem in the bud earlier in my life rather than later. Oftentimes, when I go to parties, I'll see my friends making out with girls and then I think to myself," When will my enjoyment come?" When you stop relying on texting. I was raised to be tough and deal with rough and insurmountable situations. I've lived in a lower income and crime-ridden neighborhood. So, I've dealt with some semblance of poverty and violence. I am mentally tough. Despite the many detrimental environment factors I was born into, I have been able to achieve great things. I will be earning a degree in Software Engineering this spring and I will be working for an Investment Bank upon graduation. I come from God-fearing family and I strive to adhere to moral behavior. I am 6’3 - 6’5 and have an athletic build. Despite all this, it appears that I’m not appealing to women. Despite my rough upbringing, typing this message without crying was an incredibly arduous task. At times I wonder what is the purpose of living nowadays because I am far from happy. I recently started using online dating websites and have gotten a few girls’ numbers but sure enough, they randomly stopped replying. I’ve asked for help a plethora of times but I've yet to really progress . I am solemnly frustrated and quite frankly I need help. Seldom, do I ever cry but this time I honestly can’t help it. Please help. Try that stop texting thing. If you must text to confirm a date or something, try to call instead. But if you must text, keep it short and sweet.... wait, no, just keep it short. The other thing you can probably do is get one of your good Casanova friends to either approve or edit your texts before you send them. He'll tell you what you're doing wrong.
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