stayclassi Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 (edited) My boyfriend of 2 years just recently moved to California to stay with me. He transferred his job and has recently started hanging out with his co workers about twice a month. He is from Atlanta so I understand he doesn't have any friends yet, but I'm a little worried because he has never introduced me to any of his co workers. When they go out for happy hour, there are females and males involved too. He speaks highly of this girl that he works with and texts her the most but it seems to just be mutual; nothing too special. He says everyone knows he has a girlfriend but if they are becoming more close wouldn't they want to meet his girlfriend? I mean if it was up to me I would always invite my significant other out of respect. He has cheated on me before with a co worker when we were still fresh in our relationship and I forgave him because we were in a long distance relationship so we rarely got to see each other. Should I be worry? Or am I just over exaggerating and being a little too jealous? By the way, the text message from the female co worker said, "I don't want your girlfriend to be mad." after they all made plans yesterday to go out today. Edited January 24, 2015 by stayclassi
almond Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 He cheated on you with a coworker in he past. He is now texting a female coworker outside of work. He is also not inviting you to meet any of them. I don't know if he is cheating or not, but I can certainly see why this would make you feel uneasy. Share your concerns with him. Tell him how you're feeling and why. Speak calmly, and try not to criticise him. You two should work together on this...the least he owes you after cheating is to help you feel comfortable. If he gets defensive or dismisses your feelings, I'd be walking very fast. 1
Winterina Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 Long distance does not make cheating any different. He cheated on you. That's it. Commitment should be commitment. I see a problem with the fact that he is not trying to correct the situation, if you already decided to forgive him. Why put you in a position where you have to wonder again? Honestly, he might be using your naivety and keeping his options open. 1
CarrieT Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 By the way, the text message from the female co worker said, "I don't want your girlfriend to be mad." after they all made plans yesterday to go out today. Because whatever he did or said with this chick *WOULD* make you mad so - yes - something is going on and they are conspiring to cover it up. You should be very, very worried and should be proactive in figuring out what is going on and ending it (probably ending the relationship). 1
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