debs Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 [font=courier new][/font][color=indigo][/color] Ok LSers I have something that hit me in the face while discussing our relationship with new male interests! My definition of a rebound relationship is one that you get into right after a split. To just fill the void! He stated he is worried he is a rebound!? I don't think so! Hmmm it has been well over a year. I have gone through the emotions that hit and the waves of emotions that followed! I worked through all of the things that hit you when you let go! I have no contact with the exH nor do I choose to contact him! I am free of his selfish using self! I have dated a few others before this guy and know this is different. Very different! The other guys I went through the motions of dating, hanging and talking on the phone but soon told them honestly I was just not into them or I was not ready for a long term relationship! I need input from all of you!
Mz. Pixie Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 Debs- is this your BF?? I thought you were married or engaged? Sounds like he's just scared, reassure him and he will be fine.
alphamale Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 Originally posted by debs [font=courier new][/font][color=indigo][/color] My definition of a rebound relationship is one that you get into right after a split. To just fill the void! actually DEBS, the correct definition of a "rebound" relationship is when you get involved with someone new but still have feelings for or are still emotionally attached to someone else.
Author debs Posted March 30, 2005 Author Posted March 30, 2005 No Pixie I was married briefly but he ran off with a 21 yr old more than a year ago and i wish him well! I can understand his worries and I really don't blame him! We both are older and wiser and have made some doozie of bad choices in relationships! Is the current interests a BF? Hmm yes I can say that is where it is headed!
Mz. Pixie Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 I think I was confusing you with Debster! Sorry! My BF went through this too, as I was just recently separated from a LONG marriage. Once he saw that I was into him he was less cautious. Give him some time no one wants to be the rebound guy!
quankanne Posted March 31, 2005 Posted March 31, 2005 The other guys I went through the motions of dating yep, your heart really isn't in it, though you feel you "need" to be dating.
unsafe Posted April 1, 2005 Posted April 1, 2005 I just dated a guy and I was definitly his rebound. I am 23 and he is 34. He was married for 18 months. I work with him. He wined and dined me. he told me he loved me. But as the relationship got more intense I noticed he was cold. Non-emotional. But I found pictures up still of his wife. I just couldn't handle it. I knew he wasn't over it. Anyway about you...sorry! I think that you should be strong for the both of you. Its sounds like he is insecure you don't complete love him. That you are still attached to your ex. Which understanding the circumstances you aren't. Thank God. I am so happy you are strong. Anyway just keep reasuring him. I bet that is what he needs. Time to see you will still be there and reasurance you want him. And Him only. Good luck
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