Untrustworthy friend had stalked me online all along!?

[TheGagagirl1234]

Well, I don't even know if I should write about my problem here, but I'll do it anyway because I desperately need help. And sorry for grammar mistakes; I know there might be many of them here.

 

The story is that I've been writing to plenty of unknown people on a website about my crush and a few months later my girl friend moved in to the college I go to. In the first place, I thought that there was nothing wrong and keept writing about my crush to these people. But one day I realized that something was wrong. One night when I was about to go to bed, I overheard my girl friend and the others were talking about me in the background, and I didn't know why - until I wrote a message to that person I was chatting with. At the exact same moment I send a message to the not-so-unknown person twice by accident, I heard her screm: "Oh she's typing that again!" and then I asked that person personal questions (what her real name was, and what she was doing at the moment) and she didn't answer any of them and then I got suspicious. It was so obvious that she keept changing the subject by asking if I should use these questions for a quiz.

 

The next day I heard that she Skyped with a friend or something, and she said: "Well, I'm not sure if it is her because there are plenty of people playing on that website. She also wrote that she is going home from work at 5o'clock"

 

The scary thing is that before I went to bed I wrote to the person that I would be going home from work at 5'oclock. The next morning, I heard one of the guys at work who said: "She says she couldn't sleep but I think it's because of that game she is playing. If it really is her then we have a problem"

And earlier that day I told my boss that I couldn't sleep. I don't know how to deal with my situation, so now I'm asking here for advice because it is so creepy, and I can't sleep at night anymore.

Edited January 24, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
edited for paragraphs

[GemmaUK]

Really sorry but I don't understand what you posted.

 

 

Maybe give the people or groups fake names so that we know who is saying what/who is talking to who?

[TheGagagirl1234]

Really sorry but I don't understand what you posted.

 

 

Maybe give the people or groups fake names so that we know who is saying what/who is talking to who?

 

Thank you! I'll try that

[almond]

I had a quick look at your other threads, and it appears that you overhear people talking about you quite a lot.

 

Are you purposefully listening in to these conversations? Positioning yourself close to try and overhear? Or is this just happening randomly to you? Do you hear other things at all? How long has this been happening for?

 

I would think that if your house mate was talking about you and stalking your profile like this, then she would have been more quiet when you were messaging...you said she yelled out once you typed something back to her? She knew you were in the house though. Doesn't quite add up I don't think. Then you heard coworkers and your boss also talking about this the next day? All related to your posting on a forum about a crush?

 

Can you provide some more information about yourself in general? How often do you overhear people talking, and worry that it may be about you? Do you only feel like this when you overhear conversations, or at other times to (watching tv for example)? You say you are creeped out to the point that you can't sleep any more...can you elaborate on this a little?

 

I'm a bit concerned for you, and some more information might help us advise you properly

Edited January 24, 2015 by almond

[TheGagagirl1234]

I wasn't even near my friend when she said that - I was upstairs, in my bedroom, and they were down in the living room.. I haven't told her that I play this game, so that's why I was suspicious and freaked out. And yeah, I hear that they are talking about me a lot, really. It creeps me totally out!!!

Edited January 24, 2015 by TheGagagirl1234

[Ebelskiver]

It is human nature to think we are the center of the world. It seems as if your roomate visits the same site you do. Maybe she figured out you're on it as well. But I'm suspicious that your boss and/or coworker are also on that website, unless you all hang out together. And why would they care what website you were on regardless? What have you been posting about your crush?

 

Your writing style makes it very difficult to determine what is actually going on. And I have to say, you sound a little paranoid. Are you sure that you're hearing what you think you're hearing. Do you hear voices when no one else is around? Do you have a history of psychiatric illness, are you taking any medications? Now may be a good time to go to a doctor and discuss your fears. Maybe a school counselor?

[TheGagagirl1234]

And why would they care what website you were on regardless? What have you been posting about your crush?

 

Your writing style makes it very difficult to determine what is actually going on. And I have to say, you sound a little paranoid. Are you sure that you're hearing what you think you're hearing. Do you hear voices when no one else is around? Do you have a history of psychiatric illness, are you taking any medications? Now may be a good time to go to a doctor and discuss your fears. Maybe a school counselor?

 

I honestly have no idea why they care so much, and I have literally posted almost everything about him. That's why I'm freaked out to the point where I can't sleep anymore. My writing style is not the best because English is my second language. I don't think I have psyciatric illness, otherwise I would know for sure. And I don't take any medications either. I'm pretty sure I hear what I hear, because it had happened many times.

[eye of the storm]

If you think they are stalking you on a specific website...stop posting on it.

[Satu]

Ideas of reference and delusions of reference, perhaps?

 

"A delusion that accompanies certain abnormal mental states in which remarks overheard and people seen seem to be concerned with and usually inimical to oneself."

 

"The belief that other people's statements or acts have special reference to oneself when in fact they do not."

 

Accept or refute.

[almond]

Please Gagagirl, go and tell your doctor everything. They will be able to help rule out anything nasty, and help you manage your stress and sleep issues. They will get you in touch with someone you can talk to about this also, which will be very good for you!!

 

Do this as soon as possible please, it's super important that you do <3

Edited January 25, 2015 by almond