Maxie Max Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Ok, I'm in a relationship with a guy that has over 3 kids. I say this because 2 would be doable. He's just now meeting one of his kids and it goes without saying that I'm not going to be introduced to them yet. I really love this man but most of his money is spent supporting his kids. We work different shifts and his 2 off days are mostly spent with his kids. It really isn't that much time for me afterwards. He has asked me to be patient with him and that everything will balance out but I don't know. I'm the type that likes to be on the move and he simply doesn't have the money or free time to do some of the things I like. Based on experience, do you think this will work. Keep it mind, it will be some time before I can even meet one of his kids.
Broom Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Nope. You said you like to do things and like spending cash. He has limited resources in both departments. You are compromising and will eventually get resentful. 1
preraph Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 I imagine what "balancing out" means is that once he thinks he can trust you with his kids because he might keep you awhile, at that time, his time won't be as sucked up by the kids because YOUR time will be sucked up taking care of his kids. Unless you're a really easy going person with few personal needs or ambitions of her own who would just as soon parent someone else's kids as not, I don't see any advantage of doing so. Any advantage would be if it brings you joy to do so. I think people with kids getting together with other people with kids is great all around because needs are met and it can even make things easier. But in this scenario you're the one who'll be doing most of the adjusting (and the kids and they often don't like it)
kendahke Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Ok, I'm in a relationship with a guy that has over 3 kids. I say this because 2 would be doable. He's just now meeting one of his kids and it goes without saying that I'm not going to be introduced to them yet. I really love this man but most of his money is spent supporting his kids. We work different shifts and his 2 off days are mostly spent with his kids. It really isn't that much time for me afterwards. He has asked me to be patient with him and that everything will balance out but I don't know. I'm the type that likes to be on the move and he simply doesn't have the money or free time to do some of the things I like. Based on experience, do you think this will work. Keep it mind, it will be some time before I can even meet one of his kids. No. This will not work in your favor. Those children will always come before you with his focus, time and money. Don't kneecap yourself before starting the marathon. This guy isn't available to be/give you what you need.
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