cottom Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 We started talking 2 months ago, met a month and a half ago, sleept together a month ago. We were meeting over christmas holidays a lot because i was home from work, and we got really close over that time. After i went back to work 3 weeks ago, she seems to have gone cold on me, well, it started off fine, we would phone each other and look forward to coming home on the weekend. 2 weeks ago she stopped at mine, we had great sex and then suddenly since then she went cold on me, just stopped talking. She used to make an effort to speak to me, if i didnt reply shed text again asking if i was there. I didnt say a word all week waiting for her to initiate the conversation and she just didnt bother. I got back today and asked her to hang out, she said nah shes having a nap, i said have a nap at mine then she just put "nahh". What made her go from hot to cold on me, she thought im hilarious, we'd talk non stop, she liked how i looked, we slept together, had all that going. Now nothing.
Author cottom Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 Thinking about it i was far too available. I would reply immediatly, always want to hang out or speak to her etc. That ****s needy and unattractive. So if i already been needy and available and clingy, ive scared her off, how can i pull that stuff back to how it was? 1
erklat Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 You can disappear and pretend you have a life of your own to live. The main point why I think that my new gf who is pregnant with me finds me attractive - I live my life regardless of her. She knows she or I can walk away and she will never see me shattered. Cure your clinging because of you, not for her.
JonjMie Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Have to agree, go NC, you may not get her back but at least your not making yourself look lame. If she did want you back then only a full apology and email or text saying she had made a mistake etc.
fromheart Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Thinking about it i was far too available. I would reply immediatly, always want to hang out or speak to her etc. That ****s needy and unattractive. So if i already been needy and available and clingy, ive scared her off, how can i pull that stuff back to how it was? Sounds like you've answered your own question. Just don't contact her and do your own thing. She might then come back, but just keep doing your own thing and taking it easy with her.
LovelyDaze Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 To be really honest, cottom, who knows WHAT the real reason is. The fact you DO know is that you enjoyed a nice albeit short romance with a girl who just disappeared. If you FEEL you were to clingy, work on that trait surely but her leaving could be a number of factors. Don't be too hard on yourself.
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