Toodaloo Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 How do you answer this? As a (Dear God I hate to admit it) middle aged (owch) woman, never married, no children, single and have been for several months now... I get asked this a lot when meeting new people. I just say something along the lines of "absolutely nothing I am a dream just haven't met anyone I want to commit to yet and until I do I am not going to accept any marriage proposals" or "I have made some bad choices when it comes to men so am working on making sure that doesn't happen again"... I don't use the second one not so much. The devil in me wants to answer that the last one didn't wash up so I used him as foundations for the conservatory as a new patio seemed so yesterday... or perhaps that I am a closet angel, but as an arch angel I fart a lot and do battle with daemons at night time as a bit of fun... or perhaps that I have a growth that looks like a cauliflower growing out of my back... or that the Lord will smite me down should non virginal flesh touch mine... or my name is really George and its taken me 12 years of surgery to look this good and I can't wait until they have finished work on my new vagina later on next month... Actually that last one would be fun as many of the people I meet would be shocked by that and the look on their faces would be priceless... seems a bit mean when there are people going through that though... I am actually getting rather bored of this question. I am happy. I haven't gone through the hell that is divorce because I have chosen not to marry unsuitable partners so why does that make it something wrong with me???!!! Rhetorical question it doesn't need to be answered. Any ideas would be gratefully received as its beginning to sound like yesterdays stale bread now. 1
autumnnight Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 You could say, "I'm not sure, but at least I'm not rude and nosy!" Then hand them a cup of tea No, really, I can't imagine how annoying that would be. You've had relationships, you seem intelligent and nice from your posts. What kind of person asks that kind of question? It's like those people who think it's fine to put their hands on a pregnant stranger's belly. Yeesh
Author Toodaloo Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 I like that! Problem is I am nosey and can sometimes be very rude! Perhaps I should ask them why they are in a relationship... Its getting to the point where I am having to force myself not to cross my eyes and snort when I hear it. I think I am regressing back to childhood... it all seems so trite...
preraph Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Well, I'm single, never married in my early 60s. I got asked a bit in my late 30s why I wasn't married, mostly by business acquaintances. My stock answer, and it was true, is "I got better things to do." But overall, I haven't been asked that a lot. I think part of them thinking the door is open to ask that comes from you opening the door by, for example, commenting on their family or whatever and then that gives them an in. I generally tend to never ask someone if they're married or have kids. 2
Author Toodaloo Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 I don't mind them asking IF I get peeved with them assuming that I am damaged because I haven't - its almost as if I am weird because I do not have at least one divorce under the belt! I am not going to judge someone as having something "wrong" because they made a mistake in marrying the wrong person... Thats life after all isn't it? Am now tempted to tell them that my crocodiles ate the last one...
stillafool Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 I would say "Nothing is wrong with me, what's wrong with you?" I don't know how you hold you right hand by your side and keep from slapping the avocado dip out of somebody.
stillafool Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 I generally tend to never ask someone if they're married or have kids. I like this. Neither do I and I am married, no kids.
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