cottom Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 May be a long post, i dont even know what to say here but i need to let it out... I deleted her off all social networks just then, i was just sick of the mind games that made me more in to her. I met this girl mid december, we started talking over facebook. I dont usually bother with girls with a load of friends on there and this girl had over 2000. From past experience, girls like that always have hundreds of guys messaging them daily, all of them promise theyre the best, half of them better looking than you and half of those she will talk back to and build up rapport. She popped up and apparently my first line to her had her creasing, we chatted and chatted and we both said it felt like we'd known each other ages. We went on to texting. A lot of the time though, she'd give a one word answer and so i wouldn't reply then about 5 hours later get a "hii??" text. We'd also speak on the phone for ages at a time. We both did mention our exes quite a lot, but then again my ex had an affair and it really hurt me, but she was cheated on. Her past was quite of putting, from a young age she had been around care homes, witness protection, a past of drug abuse etc. She was only 18 but seemed at the time really mature, knew what she wanted in life, got over all that past. She'd been in 5 years worth of relationships and had the fun etc and wanted to settle down. Im 22 and feel the same. We met, went to the pub with her work colleagues and ended up going out to a club and getting in at 3am, her work mates loved me, they thought i was hilarious and we had a great night. The week after, me and my mate met her and her mate we all hit it off. We had our first kiss that night and she ended up coming back to mine and we slept together, we chilled all the next day naked in bed laughing together etc. In the next week i went hers, we chilled watching films all night, i met her mom and she liked me which is a first for her mom and boys apparently. We didnt see each other for about a week after, i went to hers and i felt like id been invited over as a "gay best mate", ie pick an outfit out for her that night, help her fake tan etc. Then her mate came round and invited me to come along with them so i did, i ended up on my own all night as she got really drunk and went off chatting to random people and dancing on her own, her mate came over drunk aswell and invited me to leave the girl im seeing and come back to her place for the night, i refused and then she spent the night slagging the girl off for ditching me. Later that night, her colleague from the previous night came out and met me, me and him chatted all night. He saw how id been ditched on my own where i knew noone and said it was out of order and she isn't worth it and how he had her in bed drunk a few weeks back fingering her. I said oh right i guess she isnt worth the stress then. The next day she was apologising non stop for how she acted, i thought okay ill give her a chance, we spoke about the night before. I told her what the others were saying the night before and she apologised and we left it there. We met up a few more times over the next week then the following saturday she stopped at mine, over the few weeks she made a few remarks about how i clearly wasn't over my exes, such as when my ex text me in front of her saying how much she missed me, i told her to go away cause she cheated. She didnt like that, apparently i should have left it and not talked back. Even though she still talked with her exes who she always talked about, saying how much she loved them. Then she went out with her mate who slagged her off to me and asked her about it, her mate used me as a scapegoat and said that it was me asking to go back to her house etc. So she confronted the guy and he denied saying anything and used me as a scapegoat aswell and said that i said all this stuff. When she brought it back to me, it was 2 against me and she wouldnt listen to what i had to say. We carried on talking, well I carried on talking, i noticed she was giving me one word answers so i left it. I didnt message her for a whole week and she never once popped up to say hello, start a conversation or anything. Then i popped up last night and she was talking as if nothing had happened and we were fine, this morning i get back from work (few hour drive away) and i ask her to come mine to hang out, she said nah shes having a nap ready to go out tonight with her mates, i said "come mine have a nap here, my beds more comfy than your sofa anyway ;)" she just replied "nahhhh home x" so i deleted her now. So many red flags came up across the time i knew her but i just don't get what i did wrong, did i do anything wrong? What the hell happened because i am so confused
PegNosePete Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 What did you do wrong?? Nothing. She's just not into you, and using you as a play-thing. Ditch and move on. Well OK here's one thing you did wrong... her mate came over drunk aswell and invited me to leave the girl im seeing and come back to her place for the night, i refused
Author cottom Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 Ive had a think about it, my main issue, i was too available. I would reply straight away to a text, id always want to see her, i put her first etc. I had a gf that i wasnt available for, i treated like **** and she had an affair and left. Now i panick when i meet a girl and spend all my time on them and do everything for them. Thats boring.
PegNosePete Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 I very much doubt that were you less available, this one would have treated you better. She just wasn't into you. You can't expect every girl to be into you. Some relationships just aren't meant to be, you're different people. NEXT.
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