smg15 Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 I sent this girl a message on a dating site called datehookup.com, no it's not a sex site, and she responded with "I can see from your picture you are losing your hair, have you thought about getting a bald head? LOL Then she told me the only way she would meet me is if I got a bald head because thinning hair is a turn off. Yes she is attractive but I was suprised she was talking like that at 31 years old because she sounds more like 21. Well I have to keep my chin up 1
deathandtaxes Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 You could always respond with "If you dyed your hair <insert color> then I'd go out with ya. Your <color> hair is such a turn off." 2
Mrin Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Nothing wrong with that. A shaven head can exude confidence while a balding head can come off as weak. Thank God for Michael Jordan. Prior to him the only men with bald heads were skin heads, cancer patients and Kojack 4
Author smg15 Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 Nothing wrong with that. A shaven head can exude confidence while a balding head can come off as weak. Thank God for Michael Jordan. Prior to him the only men with bald heads were skin heads, cancer patients and Kojack I thought it takes confidence to NOT shave your thinning hair? 1
Ebelskiver Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Is she Asian? For some reason I've noticed my Asian friends are very blunt when giving physical criticism. It can be hard to take but I do like going to someone who won't sugar coat things. I tend to agree with what someone else posted, hanging onto hair that is going just looks too self-absorbed. It appears more confident to just shave and go bald. 2
Lernaean_Hydra Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 I thought it takes confidence to NOT shave your thinning hair? Where did you hear that? 1
Author smg15 Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 Is she Asian? For some reason I've noticed my Asian friends are very blunt when giving physical criticism. It can be hard to take but I do like going to someone who won't sugar coat things. I tend to agree with what someone else posted, hanging onto hair that is going just looks too self-absorbed. It appears more confident to just shave and go bald. Going bald is not a option for me because I had brain surgery when I was 9th months old and I have a surgery scar going from one side to the other side of my head. And the scar is not the same as the rest of my head so I would really look crazy. For years I always tried my best to hide the surgery scar and not I have to deal with the bald spot and surgery scar lol 1
Author smg15 Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 Where did you hear that? George Jefferson LOL 1
SawtoothMars Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Going bald is not a option for me because I had brain surgery when I was 9th months old and I have a surgery scar going from one side to the other side of my head. And the scar is not the same as the rest of my head so I would really look crazy. For years I always tried my best to hide the surgery scar and not I have to deal with the bald spot and surgery scar lol Why the hell didn't you tell HER that? 2
Author smg15 Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 Why the hell didn't you tell HER that? I told her she should make her judgment by seeing me in person 1
Mangina Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 I have a receding hairline, I just shave my head, it looks better. she clearly likes the look. I don't think it was rude, well maybe in a certain way, but in a way she was giving you a good tip because it does look better. At least in my opinion 1
Mangina Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Going bald is not a option for me because I had brain surgery when I was 9th months old and I have a surgery scar going from one side to the other side of my head. And the scar is not the same as the rest of my head so I would really look crazy. For years I always tried my best to hide the surgery scar and not I have to deal with the bald spot and surgery scar lol I am sorry I missed this. Have you tried to have the scar reduced? Then you could crop your hair with a 1 blade and it wouldn't show. 1
Van AZN Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Telling her to "make her judgment after seeing me in person" kind a turn off because you're basically calling her out. If she agrees then she's more tolerant that most girls (keeping in mind that this is an online communication and would have no qualms with blowing you off). Understandably the scar is something that can keep you self conscience, but have u ever tried to rock the look? Confidence is about being comfortable in your own skin. From reading your response, it sounds like you are still protective of covering up that side of you. So regardless if that girl is asking you to shave your head or not, you'd still be sensitive about the scar. I would assume it's been at least 30 years since you got that scar so I doubt there's anything medically wrong with showing it off. I would suggest ignore that girl, but honestly focus on yourself to not be worried about the scar. Plus it can be a great story if can wear it proudly and use some imagination: escape from prison, alien abduction, tried to fill your brain literally with knowledge... Good Luck! 1
Author smg15 Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 Telling her to "make her judgment after seeing me in person" kind a turn off because you're basically calling her out. If she agrees then she's more tolerant that most girls (keeping in mind that this is an online communication and would have no qualms with blowing you off). Understandably the scar is something that can keep you self conscience, but have u ever tried to rock the look? Confidence is about being comfortable in your own skin. From reading your response, it sounds like you are still protective of covering up that side of you. So regardless if that girl is asking you to shave your head or not, you'd still be sensitive about the scar. I would assume it's been at least 30 years since you got that scar so I doubt there's anything medically wrong with showing it off. I would suggest ignore that girl, but honestly focus on yourself to not be worried about the scar. Plus it can be a great story if can wear it proudly and use some imagination: escape from prison, alien abduction, tried to fill your brain literally with knowledge... Good Luck! Even though my hair is thinning, I have NICE HAIR which is why I am shaving it off. I remember last summer a girl I went on a date with asked me....."Ever thought about shaving your head bald? I was like no because I have NICE HAIR and she was like...."Yeah you do" LOL 1
Author smg15 Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 How is that self absorbed? Can't a guy just be himself and make his own decisions. I have receding hair and am not shaving it off. It's a guy I know who saved his hair off and still self-conscious about his head and always has a hat on lol I like........What u cut it off for? 1
Omei Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 (edited) Going bald is not a option for me because I had brain surgery when I was 9th months old and I have a surgery scar going from one side to the other side of my head. And the scar is not the same as the rest of my head so I would really look crazy. For years I always tried my best to hide the surgery scar and not I have to deal with the bald spot and surgery scar lol That's more bad ass than balding or a receding hair line it might even be sexy. I'll be real honest any men that were my age (28) or in their early 30's during OLD and they were balding I honestly skipped them entirely because there's so many men in this age bracket who arnt I wouldnt be able to get attracted. I'd much rather date a guy with a scar then someone who's young but doesn't look it. Edited January 23, 2015 by Omei
Andy_K Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Shave your head. Tell everyone you got the scar when you were saving a baby from a tiger that escaped from the zoo. 2
ascendotum Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 How is that self absorbed? Can't a guy just be himself and make his own decisions. I have receding hair and am not shaving it off. Self absorbed. lol I find it strange losing your hair makes you weak now. Really these days going against the trend is not shaving your head bald. The shaved dome look can be a very good look if you have a good shaped head and a think neck. If you're a thin dude, the light bulb shape head look doesn't exactly make the guy look strong & sauve, but receding hairline on such a guy is no great look either. I think a scar is not such a bad thing to hide personally. The girl was a bit blunt, but she wasn't nasty. I wonder though if she would have taken similar criticism (as suggested by someone on her hair dye job) in a constructive way.
Toodaloo Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Shave your head. Tell everyone you got the scar when you were saving a baby from a tiger that escaped from the zoo. Or when you got attacked by a shark rescuing a child who was swimming in the sea of the coast of Australia! Bald men are sexy when they go short short. Thin whispy comb overs and attempts to keep a few strands don't really look that good. But who cares anyway? Its only hair and its not as if your disfigured from a fire or something! Don't worry about it. I have found that when people care about looks its normally because they have the insecurities not you.
Gaeta Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Sometimes I got messages from men with moustaches and to me it's the summum of tackiness. I am sure these men are being rejected over and over but don't have a clue why. Someone needs to tell them and I always hesitated to do so. I think this lady did you a big favour by telling you why many women out there may have not messaged you or responded to you. I would much prefer a shaved head with a scar than thinning hair. About you give it a try? If it's not working for you let your hair grow back. 1
Emilia Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 I would have told her that she would look better if she had her tits done. why would you have to justify yourself to a stranger?
Gregu Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 That's more bad ass than balding or a receding hair line it might even be sexy. I'll be real honest any men that were my age (28) or in their early 30's during OLD and they were balding I honestly skipped them entirely because there's so many men in this age bracket who arnt I wouldnt be able to get attracted. I'd much rather date a guy with a scar then someone who's young but doesn't look it. Sometimes I got messages from men with moustaches and to me it's the summum of tackiness. I am sure these men are being rejected over and over but don't have a clue why. Someone needs to tell them and I always hesitated to do so. I think this lady did you a big favour by telling you why many women out there may have not messaged you or responded to you. I would much prefer a shaved head with a scar than thinning hair. About you give it a try? If it's not working for you let your hair grow back. Dearest Omei and Gaeta and every other single gal who is so shallow, You really need to improve your hairstyle, you can do a better job with your make up, start dressing sexier, and you boobs are too small, and for god sake you're too fat, please lose some weight. Signed a guy
Zahara Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 I sent this girl a message on a dating site called datehookup.com, no it's not a sex site, and she responded with "I can see from your picture you are losing your hair, have you thought about getting a bald head? LOL Then she told me the only way she would meet me is if I got a bald head because thinning hair is a turn off. Yes she is attractive but I was suprised she was talking like that at 31 years old because she sounds more like 21. Well I have to keep my chin up Absolutely rude and uncalled for. Reminds me of the guy that told me that I needed to fix my canine because it was a little crooked and then he'd consider going out on a second date with me. I can't imagine someone being so obtuse that they have no ability to step back and say to themselves that there are some things you just don't say, especially when you're a complete stranger. If you like your hair, keep it the way you want to. Don't shave it because of outside influence. I married my ex-husband when his hair was thinning. He shaved it when HE was ready. This woman can't see past her nose. You're not missing out on a prize.
insert_name Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Tell her you will be only too happy to take her advice.....but only when she gets a face worth finishing on. Too much?
Arabella Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 I was one of those girls who never dated anyone with anything less than a full head of hair or under 6 feet tall. Guess what? My husband is NOT 6' tall and he's balding. He does not shave his head (just keeps it really short) and I think he looks great. When the right woman comes along, NONE of this crap will matter. Do with your hair whatever makes you comfortable and stop worrying about what some chick thinks.
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