Andromeda8 Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 (edited) My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost seven months, and we are somewhat long distance, about a three hour drive one way, so when we visit we see each other every weekend, all weekend (minus a couple weekends here and there). The typical scenario has been he or I will drive to one another's house and arrive by Friday late afternoon, and leave late Sunday. Usually he drives up on Fridays he has off (every other Friday). But lately when he visits he has been coming up late Saturday morning or after lunch time, and this weekend he asked me to come up Saturday morning instead of tomorrow. I asked him about this, and he said he has lately felt he would like time to himself on Fridays to do what he needs to and not feel rushed going about his business. Hearing this, I couldn't help but feel bothered by it and get a spark of worry, wondering, "Does this mean something bad?" We only see each other so often being long distance. Wouldn't someone usually want to see a person more the longer they date? And especially someone so far away? Wouldn't they want to visit as much as possible? Then again, we see each other all weekend, and have only been dating this long. AND it's a three hour drive. Thoughts on this sort of thing? He treats me great, and we've both expressed seeing a future together. We're in our early 30s, and he's an introvert and I am too, though I'm not as much as he is. I told him how I felt bothered and why, and he has reassured me it has nothing to do with if he wants to see me or not. Still, I thought it would be interesting throw this out there on Loveshack and other people's takes just for the curiosity of it. because I'm used to crappy relationships and men. But this one has been different (because this time I chose someone different). So what's "normal"? Edited January 23, 2015 by Andromeda8
Ebelskiver Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 I would be hurt too. Then I would think it through and realize that I really don't have anything to be hurt about. Everybody needs a day to get stuff done. Sometimes I need several. As long as everything else is good, let it go.
Van AZN Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 True, everyone needs time to themselves especially if they are an introvert. The problem arises when it becomes a habit that he's spending less time with you, fewer calls, not as excited to see you, etc... Even if he's fully faithful, neglect is always a creeper and never good for a relationship. Maintenance of a relationship is needed, especially in a long distance one. So keep communication lines open. Good Luck!
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