lukemortt Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 my girlfriend lives an hour and a half away. we were gonna meet for dinner halfway tnight.i got to the place and she was still 30mins away as she had gotten rear ended(she sent me pics). she was alright and told me she was waiting for the cop. i told her no problem id wait...after 20mins of waiting she told me i should just go because he still wasnt there. i told her id wait another 15 minutes went by and she said he still wasnt there and we could just reschedule. i said id wait but asked if she was sure about rescheduling and she said yes so i told her im glad shes ok and left for home its been a few hours and i havent heard from her..... was i wrong in any way? i waited almost 45 mins for her.. i dont want her to think i didnt want to see her by going home
WonderWoman911 Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 (edited) I don't think you were wrong for leaving. She suggested to reschedule. She knew you've been waiting for a while, so I don't see in any way why she could even get upset with you for you leaving. You was sitting and waiting for a long time and just wanted to go home. They'll be more dates to come. I'm glad she was okay.You should try calling her to make sure everything is fine with her being as though you haven't heard from her in a few hours. Edited January 23, 2015 by WonderWoman911
Author lukemortt Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 I don't think you were wrong for leaving. She suggested to reschedule. She knew you've been waiting for a while, so I don't see in any way why she could even get upset with you for you leaving. You was sitting and waiting for a long time and just wanted to go home. They'll be more dates to come. I'm glad she was okay.You should try calling her to make sure everything is fine with her being as though you haven't heard from her in a few hours. well i know she has this thing where shes self conscious about people actually wanting to see her
WonderWoman911 Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 well i know she has this thing where shes self conscious about people actually wanting to see her But the two of you are in a relationship right? It shouldn't be that way with you.
SawtoothMars Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 my girlfriend lives an hour and a half away. we were gonna meet for dinner halfway tnight.i got to the place and she was still 30mins away as she had gotten rear ended(she sent me pics). she was alright and told me she was waiting for the cop. i told her no problem id wait...after 20mins of waiting she told me i should just go because he still wasnt there. i told her id wait another 15 minutes went by and she said he still wasnt there and we could just reschedule. i said id wait but asked if she was sure about rescheduling and she said yes so i told her im glad shes ok and left for home its been a few hours and i havent heard from her..... was i wrong in any way? i waited almost 45 mins for her.. i dont want her to think i didnt want to see her by going home Well, I would have done things differently. I hate people rescheduling on me, so I would have driven over to her and met her somewhere closer to where she lives. I mean she was 30 minutes away and you waited for 35. I would give her a call. Just say you want to make sure she is still feeling well as sometimes the physical damage from an accident can show up later than expected.
Author lukemortt Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 Well, I would have done things differently. I hate people rescheduling on me, so I would have driven over to her and met her somewhere closer to where she lives. I mean she was 30 minutes away and you waited for 35. I would give her a call. Just say you want to make sure she is still feeling well as sometimes the physical damage from an accident can show up later than expected. well i didnt think itd take that long...ol
Author lukemortt Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 But the two of you are in a relationship right? It shouldn't be that way with you. happened before...she asked if she wanted me to spend the night i sai d"up to you" and she said...that makes it seem like you dont care to see me
Mrin Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Not in the wrong per se. But you should: 1. Call her now to make sure she got home okay 2. Reschedule your date 3. In the future, you should have left the restaurant and driven to where she was to keep her company. It is the valiant thing to do and would have been a crystal clear demonstration of your desire for her. Assuming she likes you it would have made her feel special and like a million dollars on a crummy day. Thats quite and opportunity you had.
Van AZN Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 If you've never been in an accident where your car gets totaled, then that's good because it takes a good long while for things to get resolved, paperwork to be filled, coordinate someone to pick her up since she now doesn't have a car, etc... And if she still lives with her folks then she's going to have to explain the situation and that can take a while too. Basically the lack of phone call is understandable. But yes, call her back to make sure she's OK and next time (unless she's going to legitimately break up with you for being a caring boyfriend) go see her and give her emotional support. Good Luck!
Author lukemortt Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 ok for the people making a big deal i didnt go see her...she was 30-45 mins away..she got rear ended but it was minor..she didnt expect the cop to take that long to get to her
preraph Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Since an hour and a half isn't really that far, if I didn't have to be at work or something, I'd have driven on over to where she was just to show concern and help her if she needed anything. But no, she shouldn't be mad at you. If she needed you , she could have said something as well.
Zahara Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 (edited) ok for the people making a big deal i didnt go see her...she was 30-45 mins away..she got rear ended but it was minor..she didnt expect the cop to take that long to get to her I would have driven to her just to make sure she was safe. 30-45 minutes away is not a big deal. I drive to work everyday with a 30-40 minute commute. So, if it comes to someone you care about, I shouldn't be an inconvenience. Hopefully you checked on her last night and everything is okay. Edited January 23, 2015 by Zahara
Author lukemortt Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 I would have driven to her just to make sure she was safe. 30-45 minutes away is not a big deal. I drive to work everyday with a 30-40 minute commute. So, if it comes to someone you care about, I shouldn't be an inconvenience. Hopefully you checked on her last night and everything is okay. she didnt reply to my call or texts last night but oh well...she replied to my text this morning i know she was behind on work last night it wasnt a bad accidet she just got bumped into at a stop light...she was fine..car just had minor damage...nothing major
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