tory1012 Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 So my ex dumped me very suddenly, albeit we had our issues. However I really was heartbroken over the whole thing. He started to date somebody new about 4 weeks post-break-up. I had actually had a couple dates with somebody who I really got along with and enjoyed their company. Once I found out that he was dating somebody else I stopped contact. Anyway so things didn't work out with her and then he came back to me, saying that he kept thinking of me and he still loves me, wants me back blah blah blah. So I had been dating this other person for a while and I left him to go back to my EX. NOW - Let me tell you that things will most likely never be the same again. Especially if you had met somebody else and seen the other options out there during the break-up. I certainly do not feel like I used to about him. It's a really horrible position to be in. I am breaking up with him tomorrow because I can no longer continue this relationship - things have changed, I have changed and want different things. So I suppose this blog is just giving an example of if an ex does come back it's not always the same. We all need to go through the horrible heartbreak and grow from it! We would have been 5 months after break up now - wish I would have stayed away. You never know now he might be the one pouring his heart out posting on here! Stay strong my friends! It certainly does get better and everybody deals with emotions differently. Patience is your friend. 7
Apparition Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 I believe every situation is different and unique in it's own way. Although I encourage people to not look back and wait around for an ex, there are people who do get back together and stay together. Sometimes it's better, sometimes it's worse, I guess it just depends. I suppose the chances of that are slim, though, especially if it's someone who broke your heart and you wanted them out of your life. A friend of mine, however, did get his ex back and they both got married recently. Apparently, and from what I have seen, they seem better. They no longer argue in public which was frustrating as I am a mutual friend of both and they had horrible arguments in front of us (friends). Anyway, It's funny how the tables turn when most ex's come back, isn't it? Especially when it is someone who treated you horribly. So, what happened with the guy you dated before the ex came back? If you don't mind me asking. 1
Ieris Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 @ tory1012 - That's true, sometimes you see them in a different light after going NC and they aren't as desirable as you once thought they were >_< 1
Author tory1012 Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 Yeah there definently are situations where relationships can be successful after being broken up. - This was no exception. Well I'm still friends with him and we possibly might start seeing eachother again. He was very forgiving about the whole situation which says alot about his character. I guess he understood because of his own past heart breaks. We are far more compatible than my soon to be ex-ex. I definently lost my desire for him - I really am not looking forward to ending things tomorrow. In times like these I wish I would be the dumpee! At least I could play the victim LOL. None the less it must be done.
bigtrouble Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 (edited) @ tory1012 - That's true, sometimes you see them in a different light after going NC and they aren't as desirable as you once thought they were >_< This one is true... But not for everyone... Edited January 23, 2015 by bigtrouble
Author tory1012 Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 Well it's all done now and I hate hurting people He was really upset and could understand it. It's really not something you can explain! I am looking forward to being by myself for a bit. Has been too long
evanescentworld Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 .... So I suppose this blog is just giving an example of if an ex does come back it's not always the same. No - if an ex does come back, it's NEVER the same. "A man cannot swim in the same river twice." You can never undo, you can never un-say, you can never un-learn... That's not to say it never works. It can do. But it pays to consider that you're embarking on a completely different, new relationship. Because people change things, and things change people.
VikingPrincess Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 Not one time have I ever gotten back with an ex has it worked out.
Author tory1012 Posted January 26, 2015 Author Posted January 26, 2015 I agree - to much has been said and done for me to be with this person 100% again. I'm honestly okay with things - being alone does not scare me anymore at all. In fact I am looking forward to it He can't really understand why I am doing it and why it can't work. Within time he will.
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