Sybil562 Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 So backstory --- met this guy last year through a mutual friend. We hit it off then hung out a couple of times separately. He's hot and I'm very sexually attracted to him but I would never want a relationship with him cause I know his type. HOWEVER, I would love to sleep with him. We fooled around last year and then it kinda fizzled out. Didn't care, I forgot about him, etc. Last week he texted me out of the blue. It'd been months since we last spoke. He said he feels like he "owes" me for last time and wants to do lots of other things to. YES SIR, I'M READY. So we were supposed to hang out this week but he had work crap so he postponed for next week. I was like, ok, you said you want to return favors so next week would be great and he said ok So my question is I want to make sure we actually get together next week. How do I make sure it actually happens without seeming like a desperate crazy person? And does he actually want to see me or was he just BSing? Thank yew...
Ebelskiver Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Jsut tell him if he flakes on you again, he's losing his chance. Guys like him often have lots of options and they expect women to cater to them. Or to always be available even if he flakes. I've found that if you show a bit of a backbone they find that very attractive. Secretly they all want someone who won't put up with their *****. So put him on his toes. Tell him in a flirtatious way that he has to follow through or the goods will be gone. 1
EgoJoe Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 To him you're backburner booty. To you he's a sausage sampler. Sounds so healthy seriously, you think you know his type etc. He thinks he knows your type. All in all this sounds boring and juvenile to me. Buuuut, I'm not a true hypocrite and I remember my college days. Just text him that he needs to get it together and show you what he's made of before you change your mind.
Author Sybil562 Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 To him you're backburner booty. To you he's a sausage sampler. Sounds so healthy seriously, you think you know his type etc. He thinks he knows your type. All in all this sounds boring and juvenile to me. Buuuut, I'm not a true hypocrite and I remember my college days. Just text him that he needs to get it together and show you what he's made of before you change your mind. LMAO, we're both way past college. I suppose it is juvenile but I'm not looking for anything serious now and I know I'm sexually attracted to him so why not? It's there so I'm just going for the opportunity. I just want to make sure he actually follows up!!! 1
PogoStick Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 What is juvenile about wanting to bang someone because they're hot? Are you hot and someone he would want to have sex with? Assuming yes, flirt with him. A little double entendre, suggestive talk/text. Send a picture asking what he thinks of your new panties. Whatever, get his mind in the gutter. And what does he owe you for?
Author Sybil562 Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 What is juvenile about wanting to bang someone because they're hot? Are you hot and someone he would want to have sex with? Assuming yes, flirt with him. A little double entendre, suggestive talk/text. Send a picture asking what he thinks of your new panties. Whatever, get his mind in the gutter. And what does he owe you for? Yes, I know he would have sex with me, absolutely. I gave him a blowjob last time and now he wants to "repay me" and do more. So yep, I can get it from him!!! But I don't want to seem desperate if I contact him. Will I seem like a loser if I do? Like I said, I just want his body and I don't want him getting freaked out thinking I want more from him.
SawtoothMars Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Yes, I know he would have sex with me, absolutely. I gave him a blowjob last time and now he wants to "repay me" and do more. So yep, I can get it from him!!! But I don't want to seem desperate if I contact him. Will I seem like a loser if I do? Like I said, I just want his body and I don't want him getting freaked out thinking I want more from him. So you are desperate but don't want to come across as desperate? Look you just want to get laid... do you really care what the guy thinks about you anyway? Go ahead and come across as desperate, if you are just angling for dick he won't care. He already thinks you are easy. Why would he care if you want more? He won't commit to anything beyond sex anyway. I pretty much guarantee you are on a list of easy women. If the top couple better looking ones turn him down on a particular night... then your number comes up. This is how it works and not much you can do to change it except suggest a 3 way. 1
Versacehottie Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 I've found that if you show a bit of a backbone they find that very attractive. Secretly they all want someone who won't put up with their *****. Um, yeah, this. Oh and I wouldn't do much. If you seem desperate, he may postpone again. I call bull**** on the first postponement. Even if it just a fling, why would you want to be put in a desperate category in anyone's mind or give off a "use me" vibe. I think if you play it cool you will eventually get what you want from him. 1
Author Sybil562 Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 Um, yeah, this. Oh and I wouldn't do much. If you seem desperate, he may postpone again. I call bull**** on the first postponement. Even if it just a fling, why would you want to be put in a desperate category in anyone's mind or give off a "use me" vibe. I think if you play it cool you will eventually get what you want from him. LMAO, well we would be mutually using each other. I want him for a specific purpose and I'm sure it's the same with him for me. So I shouldn't followup next week with him???
SawtoothMars Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 LMAO, well we would be mutually using each other. I want him for a specific purpose and I'm sure it's the same with him for me. So I shouldn't followup next week with him??? No, you should wait outside of his office with a bottle of Viagra and some chloroform!
Author Sybil562 Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 No, you should wait outside of his office with a bottle of Viagra and some chloroform! Lmfao. No Viagra needed! I know he would have sex with me, I jjust want him to follow through. Maybe I should just be blunt and flat out say I was to f**k. Then he can either take it or leave it!! And why is a girl easy if she enjoys sex or just wants something casual? 1
SawtoothMars Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 Lmfao. No Viagra needed! I know he would have sex with me, I jjust want him to follow through. Maybe I should just be blunt and flat out say I was to f**k. Then he can either take it or leave it!! And why is a girl easy if she enjoys sex or just wants something casual? The Viagra is just in case he doesn't wake up fast enough! I don't know if it makes you "easy" or not. I do know it makes guys THINK you are easy. That is what I'm talking about. If you are an attractive single guy it isn't too hard to have a booty call list. I don't understand why, but I can't seem to ever get romantically interested in those ladies. It's almost a fundamental law of nature for us guys. I had my favorites and if you were towards the bottom, I often would only hit you up if something younger and prettier wasn't available. I'm betting that is how things work for him too.
SawtoothMars Posted January 23, 2015 Posted January 23, 2015 I did some additional thinking about this. Text him something that would turn him on and make you seem sexier. If you can't beat out the other women by being prettier, you can get his interest by being kinkier! You can use words or pictures. Whatever you are best with. 1
Author Sybil562 Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 I did some additional thinking about this. Text him something that would turn him on and make you seem sexier. If you can't beat out the other women by being prettier, you can get his interest by being kinkier! You can use words or pictures. Whatever you are best with. I don't want to toot my own horn but I'm very pretty and a lot younger than he is. There's actually a lot more to this story that I'm leaving out for fear of being judged, LOL. Can I PM you? Nevermind, can't PM!!! How can I send a private message?
elaine567 Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 It really depends on why he texted you in the first place, if he wanted a booty call and hook up, then he is being a bit coy. I guess he managed to hook up with something hotter in the meantime. Do not send any thing to him that may embarrass you later, all very well that you are desperate, but do you really want pics of your bits plastered all over social media? What is the attraction here? Why be the bottom of someone's booty call list, do you have no self esteem? If you want casual sex then better to be at the top of someone's list than just be an afterthought when they are desperate, surely?
AVarma Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 I don't want to toot my own horn but I'm very pretty and a lot younger than he is. There's actually a lot more to this story that I'm leaving out for fear of being judged, LOL. Can I PM you? Nevermind, can't PM!!! How can I send a private message? I'm not sure why you're so afraid of being judged. This is an anonymous form. You can post whatever you like.
newlyborn Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 you don't do anything. you already offered yourself up on a platter. either he comes to feast or he doesn't... 1
Author Sybil562 Posted January 24, 2015 Author Posted January 24, 2015 I don't have low self - esteem. I simply don't feel like making an effort to find a casual sex partner/bootycall. I know him, I know we are sexually compatible, I know we both want each other, etc. It's not easy for me to be sexually attracted. I don't care about being #1 bootycall or whatever. I just want it and want to make sure he comes for it! Pun intended. 1
Versacehottie Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 LMAO, well we would be mutually using each other. I want him for a specific purpose and I'm sure it's the same with him for me. So I shouldn't followup next week with him??? Yeah I understood that from your previous posts. However, the excitement will be out of it (i think) if only one of the two of you is desperate. For the best result, I would hang back. Also he may just disappear altogether---which isn't the arrangement you want either. Good luck
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