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I really need some insights right now.

 

What is wrong with her?

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I really need some insights right now.

 

What is wrong with her?

 

The only thing to do, is to not contact her and look after yourself. Let her know that you love her and if she feels she wants to make it happen to let you know. But you have to move on now.

 

There's really not much more to say than that. If she does contact you and she wants to talk about emotions and how she feels, then let her do most of the talking and just listen. Unless she talks about getting back together and what SHE will do to make it happen (you're already doing your share of being with her or any other woman by working on yourself), there's not much for you to respond to. So keep it simple and short on your end.

 

Some will suggest just ignoring her unless she specifically says 'let's get back together.' Maybe that's true but I feel each person has to make an individual decision on that, based on their circumstances.

 

Bear in mind that she's just speaking about how she feels right now. That might change tomorrow. For her to change to the point she's wanting to be back in your arms again, just let her go completely and move on. Give her complete space and freedom to decide.

 

Once again, the key is to move on and work on yourself. IF there is any hope between the two of you, that's the only way to access it. But 100% guarantee you'll feel better right now and eventually meet the partner you're looking for.

 

If you decide to be with her or another girl from another country, make a decision to live in that country based on your needs outside of the relationship. Would you live in France if it wasn't for this girl? Would you set up a business and continue to live there if you broke up? If the answer is no, then if you were to move the relationship would not work.

So, if you want to be with a woman from overseas, but don't see yourself living in her country, you must say to her that you are established in your own life at home and she is very welcome to join you.

 

I'm one month in a break up, just working on myself and not instigating contact with my ex. By doing this, I've received some communication form my ex that suggests that she might be looking my way again, or might not be. Either way its a dramatic improvement over the dire situation between us last month.

However, I keep moving forward by myself. Maybe she'll come back maybe she wont. As much as I miss her and see her face in my mind every morning, I'm fine either way.

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The only thing to do, is to not contact her and look after yourself. Let her know that you love her and if she feels she wants to make it happen to let you know. But you have to move on now.

 

There's really not much more to say than that. If she does contact you and she wants to talk about emotions and how she feels, then let her do most of the talking and just listen. Unless she talks about getting back together and what SHE will do to make it happen (you're already doing your share of being with her or any other woman by working on yourself), there's not much for you to respond to. So keep it simple and short on your end.

 

Some will suggest just ignoring her unless she specifically says 'let's get back together.' Maybe that's true but I feel each person has to make an individual decision on that, based on their circumstances.

 

Bear in mind that she's just speaking about how she feels right now. That might change tomorrow. For her to change to the point she's wanting to be back in your arms again, just let her go completely and move on. Give her complete space and freedom to decide.

 

Once again, the key is to move on and work on yourself. IF there is any hope between the two of you, that's the only way to access it. But 100% guarantee you'll feel better right now and eventually meet the partner you're looking for.

 

If you decide to be with her or another girl from another country, make a decision to live in that country based on your needs outside of the relationship. Would you live in France if it wasn't for this girl? Would you set up a business and continue to live there if you broke up? If the answer is no, then if you were to move the relationship would not work.

So, if you want to be with a woman from overseas, but don't see yourself living in her country, you must say to her that you are established in your own life at home and she is very welcome to join you.

 

I'm one month in a break up, just working on myself and not instigating contact with my ex. By doing this, I've received some communication form my ex that suggests that she might be looking my way again, or might not be. Either way its a dramatic improvement over the dire situation between us last month.

However, I keep moving forward by myself. Maybe she'll come back maybe she wont. As much as I miss her and see her face in my mind every morning, I'm fine either way.

 

 

Stay strong friend.

 

As for me, i feel really good that i managed to tell her everything i had on my chest. EVERYTHING.

 

I don't think she is coming back. I have to manage this. Now it can be more easier, but i have to stay calm. I can only respect her distance and her decision not to fight for us.

 

It is hard, though.

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It has been a thew days since we talk, since i told her if she wants anything, she has to fight for it.

 

Days passed and nothing from her.

 

I think i have my answer.

  • 2 weeks later...
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Day 22.

 

I am better than i expected. I am posting this for people are at their start of the recovery.

 

If you read back and see my full story, you can see how much i loved her and how i wanted her in my life. Now, 22 days passed, days when i concentrated on working out, having a social life and basically keep my mind occupied and it worked.

 

I am not full recovered, but i feel a lot better because i decided to move on.

 

She was on my mind, she still is, but i come first, my happyness comes first. I had the opportunity to talk with her friend that is somehow in the same situation as i was, tooked for granted and other stuff like that and she told me that she had a plan with her life and did not expect me in her life, she allowed herself to be happy, but when she went abroad, she remembered how it was to be alone and what she wanted.

 

Kinda sad, but in a weird way helped me. I have no idea why, but it did.

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