Eaglestar83 Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 I was seeing this girl for almost 7 months and it recently ended. Am 31, she's 28. I was the kind and gentleman guy to her (no smothering) and she always said how respectful I am to her and how I have the best qualities she's ever seen in a man. I did feel from the outset that she wasn't as attracted or excited about me as I am about her, and I often wondered if shes only with me because am a good guy to her. We were compatible on many levels but the chemestry was lukewarm mainly due to her rather than me. But then I thought she's 28 and had fair amount of experience to know what she likes/dislikes and she was going out with me almost three times a week, no much hassle, saw my family etc. We were also physically intimate and we got together as partners rather than just dating. We are both adults/mature. we talked about marriage and what we wanted out of life and we seemed to have similar values. Suddenly one day she told me shes not happy and wants to end it. I left her well alone and didnt try to argue or convince her to stay cos I deserve better than that. But is this a common thing? For a girl her age to do this? Not to know what she wants to the extent of being with me in a full fledged relationship? I know girls often have this "nice guy" dilemma when dating. The "he is such a good guy, but..." Scenario. but usually it drags for a month or two max and the girl wouldn't take it as far as being intimate with the guy before she ends it due to lack of attraction. Also, this girl is 28 not an inexperienced 21 year old so what gives?
Diezel Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 Who knows? Just because she is 28, it doesn't mean she has everything figured out. She could live to be 103 and not find someone to be with. There really isn't enough information to go on. Honestly, the only thing I can draw on is the fact that she really wasn't that into you. Maybe she tried and tried and tried and it just didn't happen with you before she decided to move on. Maybe you were too nice, maybe, maybe, maybe, etc, etc ,etc...
Author Eaglestar83 Posted January 22, 2015 Author Posted January 22, 2015 Thank you I feel the same. I have dated lots of girls and all it takes me is usually a date or two to figure the attraction bit out. Even if the girl is the nicest thing ever, am not gonna be with her or sleep with her just to experiment, if the attraction isn't there. I have more respect for myself and for people than to do this.
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