amyO Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 My Ex and I stopped being together last month .. you can see my previous threads about it. He did the whole "fade out" after seeing each other for 3 months. I was pretty heartbroken. I was blindsided by it and confused about what went wrong. Even in the week that he started acting strange- right away he was adding girls on all forms of social media. Liking pictures & random girls were in his top friend's list on snapchat. I know it all sounds silly, but when we were together, none of this really occurred. Here and there he would like a girl's picture, but it was usually friend of his from school, so I knew it wasn't anything to worry about it. He still is continuing to like and add different girls- I know he is definitely on an app to find these girls. (There all conveniently located in his area)I decided to delete him all together from social media. I guess a part of me was hoping he still missed me and would reach out or would at least take a break from wanting to meet someone new. It seems like he is just desperate at this point to meet anyone and doesn't care about me at all. I think that's that hardest part- knowing he must've not really cared about me. and I know it sounds stupid as it was only 3 months, but things were going so well. I'm still having a hard time processing what took place and what made him feel like we weren't going to work. Then to see him "move on" so fast hurts even more.
bigtrouble Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 My Ex and I stopped being together last month .. you can see my previous threads about it. He did the whole "fade out" after seeing each other for 3 months. I was pretty heartbroken. I was blindsided by it and confused about what went wrong. Even in the week that he started acting strange- right away he was adding girls on all forms of social media. Liking pictures & random girls were in his top friend's list on snapchat. I know it all sounds silly, but when we were together, none of this really occurred. Here and there he would like a girl's picture, but it was usually friend of his from school, so I knew it wasn't anything to worry about it. He still is continuing to like and add different girls- I know he is definitely on an app to find these girls. (There all conveniently located in his area)I decided to delete him all together from social media. I guess a part of me was hoping he still missed me and would reach out or would at least take a break from wanting to meet someone new. It seems like he is just desperate at this point to meet anyone and doesn't care about me at all. I think that's that hardest part- knowing he must've not really cared about me. and I know it sounds stupid as it was only 3 months, but things were going so well. I'm still having a hard time processing what took place and what made him feel like we weren't going to work. Then to see him "move on" so fast hurts even more. I wouldn't worry about him too much, Men make hasty decisions without realizing their emotions. This is why we often make mistakes and come begging back Well it happens but not always though... Don't hold your breath... Just let him be and let him do his own thing, you need not concern yourself. Just go NC and heal, he feels lost right now and needs to find an anchor in his little world to hold him.
crazybestie101 Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 My Ex and I stopped being together last month .. you can see my previous threads about it. He did the whole "fade out" after seeing each other for 3 months. I was pretty heartbroken. I was blindsided by it and confused about what went wrong. Even in the week that he started acting strange- right away he was adding girls on all forms of social media. Liking pictures & random girls were in his top friend's list on snapchat. I know it all sounds silly, but when we were together, none of this really occurred. Here and there he would like a girl's picture, but it was usually friend of his from school, so I knew it wasn't anything to worry about it. He still is continuing to like and add different girls- I know he is definitely on an app to find these girls. (There all conveniently located in his area)I decided to delete him all together from social media. I guess a part of me was hoping he still missed me and would reach out or would at least take a break from wanting to meet someone new. It seems like he is just desperate at this point to meet anyone and doesn't care about me at all. I think that's that hardest part- knowing he must've not really cared about me. and I know it sounds stupid as it was only 3 months, but things were going so well. I'm still having a hard time processing what took place and what made him feel like we weren't going to work. Then to see him "move on" so fast hurts even more. This sounded just like ex , our stories are quite similar. Just like how other poster said stop worrying about him, NC and move on. Telling you from my experience , i did all analyzing, nothing came out. My ex was long gone and its been more than year , i have never heard from him. I wish i would have went NC early and moved on..
Sweetescape910 Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 Holy ****. I just read through some of your threads, and you are EXACTLY like me. I'm an 18 year old very pretty and nice girl. You seem to have a very huge heart like I do. I can tell you wear your heart on your sleeve. I'm also looking for a serious committed relationship, and I also just started seeing a therapist(although you've been seeing one for a while) The best advice I can give you, as I give myself, is to focus on yourself. You're depressed and you have anxiety and I know most of that stems from not having the perfect friends or a great boyfriend, but I think you should work on being happy alone, just as I am trying. My sister and my best friend are both in serious long term relationships and I live in a small town where every guy is just a dick. I've had short term relationships but nothing serious. But everything happens for a reason. Maybe god is saving the one when you work on yourself. If you cant be happy alone, what makes you think someone will bring happiness to your life? Read some of my threads and you'll see where I'm coming from. And babe, you'll find someone great. All good things take time. I know it's discouraging, but keep your head high and try not to be so negative because you never know what could happen. You could die tomorrow.'live life to the fullest, even if it means not having a boyfriend. Sending my love to you! Glad to know there are girls out there going through the same thing. Xx (message me if you Need to talk)
LovelyDaze Posted January 28, 2015 Posted January 28, 2015 I decided to delete him all together from social media. Best thing you did right there. It always hurts to feel that you have been "faded out". You weren't. After three months, he probably had a numerous amount of reasons why he left: you two weren't as compatible, he was a jerk and found another girl on one of the sites you mentioned, felt it was getting too serious and bailed, already HAD someone before you and went back...you just never know. Keep HIM faded out now. Work on being the best that you can be in all that you are inside and out. Don't let an ex define what your worth is.
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