Rexxy Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 Just a curious question, I know the girl I'm seeing is eventually going to ask how many girls I've slept with in the past. I'm 20 years old and slept with around 18 girls so I'm wondering if I should be honest, which I usually am, or take it down a bit so I don't hurt her even though its in the past.
todreaminblue Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 As a woman I dont ask a guy how many women he has slept with......i do ask has he had a check......im a safety girl...whats past is past whther its noen ro 101 its good to knwo if they had safe sex.....whatever th enumber may be.....you are young and have slept with a few......get an std check......deb
aggie382 Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 How do you know she's going to ask? I never ask that. But if she does, you should be honest, if your choose to answer her. Personally, I wouldn't.
Ebelskiver Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 I think I did this too around your age. I would ask about the # of sexual partners. Now I rarely do, and if so it's just out of a vague interest, and I'm not dating them...I couldn't care less if it's 2 or 200. If a guy asks me, I just tell him it's none of his business.
Author Rexxy Posted January 22, 2015 Author Posted January 22, 2015 Thanks for the advice everyone. When the question comes up I'll jokingly avoid it, moving past it without ever answering it so I don't unintentionally hurt her. Since it's really none of her business and its in the past.
Ieris Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 No need to tell them, something on the lines of.. "Enough to know what I am doing" should be good enough. 1
Author Rexxy Posted January 22, 2015 Author Posted January 22, 2015 No need to tell them, something on the lines of.. "Enough to know what I am doing" should be good enough. Yeah, jokingly avoid it without answering. Good idea.
Spartan040 Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 Damn dude, lucky you. But, while it may make her feel insecure, I think you should be honest with her, but make clear to her that it's all in the past and that she's your priority.
EgoJoe Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 It's none of her business. Refuse to answer and say this, "That's the past. You're the future. I'm clean and I don't have kids."
Lani Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 Tell her or don't, your choice. It never really goes well either way, which is why it's a question that should never be asked in the first place. 1
Lani Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 Women have a double standard. Most insist on knowing. I'm a man who's 34 and have had none. I shouldn't be obligated to tell that to a woman. How does that make women have a double standard?
WonderKid Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 I don't think it's a question need asked in the beginning stages of dating. Me personally I could care less. And I don't ask. And depending on the person, I answer. Some people just can't handle the numbers.
lovexocoach Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 It's your choice but personally I don't think it's a good idea to reveal that sort of information. The question doesn't serve any purpose and it's private. Better to keep it light and joke about it - Just enough to be a wonderful lover to you. And in case you're wondering, I'm STD free (as long as you have been tested and everything is okay) and no kids.
Hopes Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 DO NOT ANSWER THAT QUESTION! In fact, no one should ever ask it. "Are you std free? Have you been checked?"
sugarpeas Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 I agree with what the majority of the people on here have said. i don't think you should answer the question. It'll do more harm than good. 1
thecrucible Posted January 26, 2015 Posted January 26, 2015 I posted a thread about a guy asking me this and I got a mixture of answers. I decided to go with 'not his damn business' as we hardly know each other and aren't even dating...plus I think he just asked that 'cause he wanted to have sex with me... Anyway some posters replied "oh you should be honest. He should know what type of girl he's dating" etc. Truth is I'd only be honest in the most advanced circumstances when I know he could handle it and we were in a long term relationship. Truth is though, most guys can't stand hearing about exes so I don't bring it up 'cause what's the point in living in the past. The only thing I want to know is that he is clean. Now how come no one has suggested that here?
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