luvsux69 Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 Girlfriend snooped through my phone (which I dont mind that much because I have nothing to hide) but she did get upset that I have too many girlfriends that I have texted "Happy New Years" to. I used to be a promoter and I explained to her that I have a lot of female and male friends. I text a lot of female and male friends and I never said anything in appropriate. No flirting whats so ever.
SycamoreCircle Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 He with many friends, has none. -Socrates 3
aggie382 Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 If you were with her at the time you were sending Happy New Year texts to girls, I can see why she'd be upset.
Ebelskiver Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 If she wasn't upset with you before going through your phone and is only upset with you after the fact, it seems as if she is looking for a reason to be angry. You have a right to all the friends you had before the relationship. It sounds as if they are appropriate, she shouldn't care. 1
WonderKid Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 It's not the males, it's the females. Which is typical. If the roles were reversed, same thing could be applied to her. Not saying you need to completely oust them out, but, with the females, you need to tread carefully. Me personally, I wouldn't have texted everyone that. I would've made a shoutout on Facebook and that's probably it. Especially if I was with her, I would rarely be on my phone.
Author luvsux69 Posted January 22, 2015 Author Posted January 22, 2015 I didn't text in front of her. Isn't it wrong of her to snoop through my cell too?
WonderKid Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 I mean you did tell her about the female friends. I can't sit and say it is completely wrong, because if you were playing her, then it would be a good judgment call on her part. But if you wasn't, then it would be seen as an invasion of privacy. You have to sit down and talk more about it, and get it out of the way or these outside people are going to be more trouble than now.
BeatsByDirk Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 Don't worry about what she thinks! If you are on the up and up and she's snooping you should blow her for a few days and be like: I don't need your heat, I haven't given you a reason to distrust me, if this is the road we are going down I'm not cool with it. I wouldn't even discuss the texts with her especially if you guys don't have kids, cohabitants or at engaged or married. Put her on blast for the snooping and shut it down, she'll back track quick! 1
MissBee Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 I wouldn't have gone through a boyfriend's phone and all through his text messages first off. But if for whatever reason I decided to I wouldn't be upset simply because he texted "Happy New Year" to a bunch of people who happen to be women....I mean come on....on New Year's Day, Christmas and Thanksgiving is when all kinds of people you might have spoken to once all year decide to send you these generic messages wishing you a happy holiday *shrug*, it means nothing, especially if you said nothing beyond that and it led to no further conversations. I could understand if it was flirtatious or led to flirty conversations or if you were sending them Valentine's Day messages but "Happy New Year", I think she's being a bit extra with that.
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