Luma89 Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 everyone asks the same question but i thought maybe i could get some personal help on here. i havent had a boyfriend in a long time. i dont think this is normal. it has been over five years that i have been single now, and i feel awfully lonely. what do you think i should do? how can i get to know someone? i need some tips, please! i dont want to spend my life alone! It sucks coming home and everything is just so empty, like my heart.
millytiger Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 I've had the same exact problem. I either was too shy to approach people, or I just never thought I'd be good enough for anyone, so I'd always hide and whenever I did have the perfect opportunity to create something potentially beautiful with someone, I'd stand them up or just shun myself from everything and everyone. I guess deep down inside we have this fear of getting hurt, or of not being who that person would want us to be. I still struggle myself, but I'm reading as much as I can to try and grow and hopefully get out of this "Single hole." I've watched every youtube video there is. Read everything I can. I'm reading this book I found on amazon kindle right now called "5 Steps to find your valentine" by Claire Close, and it's talking about self-worth and how to actually have the guts to meet someone. It's very helpful, and giving me a little bit of hope that yes, maybe I just have to man up and get out there! and stop going for *******s! So, my help, or advice? Uhm, okay. well. Stop being sad. Stop thinking you will always be lonely. If you want someone in your life, go out and let that someone in. Grow as a person. Hope it all gets better soon. We all deserve to love and be loved. 1
Ebelskiver Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 It's hard to give advice without knowing a bit about you. How old are you? What do you do for fun? For work? Do you meet members of the opposite sex often? The way of the dating world right now is that if you don't ACTIVELY put yourself out there, no one is just going to magically arrive. Are you enrolled on any online dating sites? The general consensus is if you do one of the pay sites like Match.com, etc that the people on there are more serious anout relationships thatn they are on the free sites. Those tend to be more for hook-ups. That said, OLD can be brutal, there is a constant low level of rejection no matter how attractive you are. Go out and do things that excite YOU. Develop your interests. It will make you more interesting when someone does come around. Do you go out to bars? I was against meeting men at bars until I just got so sick of OLD. I went out on Halloween after being stood up and ended up meeting my current bf. In a way, being at a bar gives you a lot of options to interact with single men that you don't normally have on a day to day basis. But you have to be outgoing. Do you ask guys out?
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