he told his brother we were taking a break, but to me he ended things....

[SUNFLOWER2015]

3 years together. I moved to be with him, we ended up fighting over stupid things. After many fights us threating break up, he finally ended things saying he had been thinking about it that things weren’t progressing that he never loved anyone more than me before that this is the healthiest relationship he has had but he is unsure that there are still things he wants to do and that he doesn’t want to go forward and then still have doubts after marriage. he said he has a family that is sure he should marry me and a girl (me) sure but that he just doesn't know... SO we moved out it’s been 2 months total 1 month not living together. Since then he contacts me at least 1 time a week I do not contact him at all. He asks to hang out we have a few times.

 

There is an Italy trip we have booked in May he still wants us to go on and there is an account set up in my name is has money vested in stocks which he just leaves there – I love him and decided I need to stop taking his calls/texts and seeing him because it just confuses me. When we hang out nothing ever physical but still it sets me back. In the 3 years we dated I never saw him cry but during the break up hecried many times and was really torn / confused and worried he was making amistake and all that. I know only time will tell but can a person just be thatscared of commitment?

 

I will when he first ended things it was about him wanting to live in the city and me not wanting that he said how about we just move into different places but still date he asked me to think about it, but I said no. maybe he was just offering me a life line I don't know....because later after I refused and gave my reason we spoke again and he said I was right with my reasons

Edited January 21, 2015 by SUNFLOWER2015

[Ducktape]

Listen, you're all over the place, starting a bajilion threads trying to understand your breakup. You'll never figure it out. And it doesn't matter. He's gone. And even if you end up having an answer, it will only lead to more questions.

 

I know it's hard, but you need to put it behind you and start moving on.