cottom Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 I met a girl, lets call her C. Me and C had been meeting for a week or so. Texting for a month. On this night me, her and her friend E went out. C got really drunk and ended up leaving me on my own all night to chat with random people and i sat by myself bored. Her friend E and her 2 sisters spent the night slagging off C, how she was acting that night and then E asked me to go back to hers and leave C there. Later on a colleague of C turned up, T. T spent the remaining hour of the night chatting to me. After the club closed E wanted her sisters, me, T and C to go to these guys place. C had her bag stolen apparently and went off with another guy in a taxi to find it, me and T were left by ourselves, we get a taxi and then C phones up to ask us to pick her up and she gets in our taxi with this new guy. 5 minutes later they get out claiming they are going to pick up E from a this guy in our taxis flat. Me and T drive on home. That night T phones me and we talk for about an hour, i said how things went down that night and he told me C wasnt worth it, she was easy. He told me that he had her really drunk in bed the week before, fingering her and she just loves attention. I said to him "wow, yeah shes young she probably does like the attention off a load of guys. I live 100 miles away working, i dont really have time for girls messing me about" He said to me that she isnt worth it and will just cause more stress etc. The next day C apologised none stop to me and said that it was all because she was drunk, i told her what her friends said about her and what she did with T in bed and she denied it. I left off the part about her friend asking me back to hers because obviously thats a big thing and i dont want to mess up a friendship. 10 days later C stops at mine and the next day she is completely off with me, she stops starting conversations with me and being fun and flirty etc in our messages. During the week she sees E and confronts E about what she said to me that night. E admitted she said a little bit but claimed that I said all the really bad stuff and i asked to go back to her house and leave C, not the other way round. Then she confronted T about what he said and T turned it around on me, saying that i had said all the bad things and also added that i had said we had "been shagging". I found this out on Sunday and i tried to defend myself and put the story out exactly how it went she said "Dont worry i dont care anymore, your not my type of person, with what ive found out" We spoke a little after until i realised i was just getting one word answers and forcing the conversation along. So i left it and never messaged her. It has now been 4 days since we last spoke, i want to message her and ask whats up or whats going on between us but that will make me look needy. She is constantly surrounded by guys hitting on her non stop, so if i do leave her alone she will just forget about me and stick with one of the other 100 guys a day that inbox on facebook. Shall i just leave it out now and move on? after a month and a half she seemed like my perfect girl, personalitywise and what she is doing with her life etc but now i feel like ive lost her for what her mates said about me. I hate logging on to facebook and seeing her name "online" and her not popping up anymore. I really want to message her (phones broke and im 100 miles away) and say something like "i guess we arent going to talk again then" and then see what she has to say
LivinDeadGrl Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 Move on, she's not worth your time. She didn't even try to give you the benefit of the doubt or let you explain what happened.
Light Breeze Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 Don't send that message, cut all contact immediately. Then go ghost on her. If what her friends told you about her is true, then you're better off without her. IMO It might be better to date someone near you.
Author cottom Posted January 21, 2015 Author Posted January 21, 2015 She keeps liking my stuff on facebook, im not replying to her. Shes not as bad as her friends say, she spent 4 years with a guy, broke up at the start of the year, met a guy in may and broke up september. Then i was the next guy she slept with and she actually liked me. I dont know what it means she liking my stuff on facebook, is she doing it to everyone?
CarrieT Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 I dont know what it means she liking my stuff on facebook, is she doing it to everyone? It doesn't matter. Really, really doesn't matter.
hoping2heal Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 Hi Cottom, I really don't see how you messed this up. I would say that it was her who messed it up. She is a sloppy drunk for one, not to mention how rude it was of her to ignore you and be chasing after other guys. You mention you work 100 miles away, this girl is not at the point in her life where she could be in a commited relationship judging by her behavior when the two of you went out. Also, the drama with her friend is ridiculous. There is really no getting around them and they're not very quality people if they do that to her. Yet again, more signs of her emotional immaturity. She may be a nice person and enjoyable to talk to but she's emotionally immature and she's not in the "settle down and be a girlfriend" phase and that seems to be what you're looking for.
Chi townD Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 Dude, her friends had nothing to lose telling you this stuff. I would be more prone to believe them. Time to move on. Sounds like this girl has a lot more growing up to do. Don't call her or text her and ignore anything she sends. You should also block her on facebook. Remember, she made a choice and that was to have you out of her life. So, give her what she's asking for.
Light Breeze Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 I dont know what it means she liking my stuff on facebook, is she doing it to everyone? Unfriend or block her. If you want to move on, then do so. If you don't, you'll be over analyzing stuff like this to death, it's not healthy.
Author cottom Posted January 21, 2015 Author Posted January 21, 2015 I keep wanting to message her and then i realise, no she went off and got to drunk and fingered, im 22, i work all over the world, i need a girl that would be willing to wait for me etc.
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