vintagehussy1 Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 I love my boyfriend with all my heart. We've been dating now for over a year and a few months. Before I met him, I had slept with only one man and that was at a very young age, and what's more, it was only one time. That being said, my boyfriend is the 2nd man I've ever slept with, but I consider him to be the first. About 6 months into the relationship, I had wanted to approach him about our sex life. I felt that we didn't have enough sex or rather...didn't have it often enough. So, I had finally gotten the courage to talk to him about it. After our conversation, it seemed as though he understood how I felt, plus he said he would work on it and try harder. Well, a month passed and still there was no improvment, I then had the same discussion with him and he had the same response. It's been just over 8 months later and nothing has changed. I have never had an orgasm from penetration (don't get me wrong...he's great at everything else, eh-hem....) But it seems that everytime I come close to an orgasm during sex, he beats me to the punch and can't hold out. This frustration that I have from the "lack of sex" is beginning to branch out into other aspects of our relationship. For example, I find myself over reacting in an argument that him and I might have...and while I'm living in the moment of the argument, I find myself always wanting to go back and talk about our sex life. Sometimes I think to myself "well, you're 21 and he's 27, he could be passed his sexual prime!" But that just doesn't seem right to me...a 27 year old guy passed his prime? He says that he's just never really been that type of guy... that sex has never been that important to him, but insists that it's just as pleasurable for him as it is for any other person. I know that he's straight because we have very passionate sex when we have it. I know he's not cheating on me because we spend every second of every day with eachother and plus since the day I first met him he's told me how much he's wanted to marry me. He's the perfect man! Except....he doesn't like to have sex very often...and it's driving me insane! I find myself thinking about having sex with other men...not relationships with other men...just sex. What do I do? Is it me? How do I fix this? Because I've just recently discovered how sexual of a person I am and once every week/ week and a half, just isn't enough!
ReluctantRomeo Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 Well, there are a whole load of threads with related subjects on the sexual/reproductive forum, so you could check these out. To summarise : - the majority of women don't come thru intercourse alone. Not without a lot of practise and you are still pretty young. So you need to build some kind of warm-up into the proceedings. - people vary in sex drive, but you need to work out some kind of compromise that suits you both, not just him. Talk to him again about needing more - even if he's not in the mood himself, you could do something together for you. At a minimum, he could hold a toy on you. - once every week and a half is a bizarrely low sex drive for a guy. Especially a 27 year old. If talking and giving it a go fails to change this, he should see a doctor.
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