HugosVoice Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 Long story short, I have been with my older partner for 10 and a half years. We own a lovely home together and generally get on well. Despite this, for a long time something has always felt off to me… like as much as I love him as a person I am not sure whether I want him as a partner forever. Our sex life has always felt rather forced on my part (more like an obligation as a partner as opposed to a genuine desire). I was very young when we met (21) and he was nearly 40. I have changed a lot and he has remained the same. This is not a case of having an itch. I have NO interest in going out and partying and being single. If anything I’d want to be very much alone. You might see some time ago I started a thread on here about another man. While I am still attracted to him, he plays no part in what I’m feeling now. Recently a few things in our relationship have bothered me (neglect, occasional verbal abuse (no name calling but raising his voice), the silent treatment, never going out/away) and I brought them up with him and told him I want to break up. He loves me very much and has asked that I please give him time to make it up to me. He had no idea these issues even existed (my fault, I’m very much a keep the peace person and seldom speak up so as to not rock the boat) but now that he does, he wants to make them right. Despite this sincerity, I know deep down inside that this isn’t the right relationship for me. I feel like he could whisk me off to Paris tomorrow and I’d still feel exactly the same. Am I wrong for not being the same person I was at 21 and having my feelings change?
rbrock2323 Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 Am I wrong for not being the same person I was at 21 and having my feelings change? No, you're not..now move on.
BetrayedH Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 It would be wrong if you were married. If you're not married, you haven't made a lifetime commitment.
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