canadagirltroubled Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 Ok, I need advice quick! I have been with this guy for about 7 years on and off, he cheated on me, lied, treated me not so great. I finally ended things with him 2 months ago, just recently we started talking, getting along, seen eachother a few times, He has been telling me he misses me, wants to see me, and that he is really thinking about where his life is going. We have a daughter together as well. I miss him to but I cannot forget what he has put me through in the last 7 years, I was head over heels in love with him, I pretty much put him on a petistal while we were together. (don't ask me why, he didn't deserve it) but none the less I loved him. I feel like one of those girls who just can't walk away from one of those abusive relationships. (He never got violent with me) So, ok....I am thinking can it work?? will he change his boyish ways?? I have no clue...well Today, I ask him if he is coming over to my place to help get ready for our daughters birthday party..... (I basically wanted to confirm he was still coming to help) He never could give me a straight answer, seemed he was always waiting for something better to come up...anyways, He tells me No! that he finds it hard to be around me, and he is still hurt by our relationship..."things are not ok" WTF????? He was the one who was telling me HE missed ME that HE wanted to SEE ME ......now I get this cock and bull story??? what is up with that?? what should I do??? he has always been so wishy washy, but common already, he is 26 going on 27 this april get a grip already buddy.... what's your advice people??? what would you do in my situation??? please do I forget that he even tryed to get back in my life or what??? I do care for him, but I hate these games.
Donut Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 The point is he isn't going to change. You can take him back but it'll be the same merry go round. I had five years with a guy just like this, luckily I wasn't tied to him by a child. I was in love with his potential, not him. I spent too long trying and trying, he was just along for the ride................occasionally getting off for other girls, jeez he was a patholigical liar! You've already had enough, you did the right thing, don't let him play the guilt trip on you. He should be able to put any hurt feelings aside for your daughters b'day party, if he meant what he said. Waiting for something better to come up? That should tell you everything you need to know about him. Concentrate on your lovely daughter, be civil with him in your interactions about her (does he actually miss her or ask about her as well?), but don't play any more of his emotional games.
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